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Goal Setting Course - Become Your Own Life Coach
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01: Complete Goal Setting Course - Become Your Own Life Coach.
Imagine yourself setting goals for your life to give you maximum fulfillment,
success, happiness in all aspects of your life, your professional life, your personal
life. Imagine setting these goals and then having a plan create plan to bring your
goals to life, to make them real, to accomplish your goals. Hi, I'm T.J. Walker,
personal development expert, and I help people set their goals and then break
those goals down into meaningful habits. They can do on a daily basis. So that their
goals can be realized. I'm here to help you make your goals become a reality. So if
you're tired of just drifting through life or having general fuzzy goals like I want to
be rich, you're ready to get serious about setting goals that are meaningful to you
that. Go ahead. Sign up for this class. Let's get started.
02: Quick Win! Do This Daily to Help You Set Your Own Life Goals
Let's start off with a quick one. One of the easiest things you can do and quickest
things you can ever do to really get going on the right path of setting your own
goals in life is to take your cell phone and turn it off. Now, I don't mean forever.
I mean throwing it away. And you may be watching this course on a cell phone,
which is great, but you've got to spend some time each day, even if it's just 10
minutes with your cell phone off. Why is that so important? Because your cell
phone is bombarding you with goals all day long. Other people's goals. The good
folks at Facebook and Netflix and Google are sending you messages all day long
with their goals. Their goals are for you to watch more mindless entertainment, to
waste more time on Facebook, to scroll through more spam. That's how they make
money from advertising. So it's not just about setting goals. It's about giving your
mind time to think about the goals you want. And if you're like most people
checking your cell phone every two minutes, you're not going to have space in your
own brain for your own goals. So that is step one. Whether you do it now or later
in the day, set aside some time, at least 10 minutes a day where your phone is not
on vibrate, but literally off. That frees up your brain to think about your goals for
life.
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03: Quick Win! Write Down One Specific Goal Right Now
Before we get too far and let's do one more really quick win, I want you to write
down just one simple goal you have for yourself. For example, I have the goal of
drinking one large glass of water first thing every morning. What I probably
remember if I didn't write it down, maybe, but it's the sheer active writing it down.
And then looking at that. Written down. That helps me fulfill that goal.
So I want you to do that right now. Be really specific. It didn't have to be some big
grand thing like become a billionaire and change the world. It can be really, really
tiny and small. So please write it down. You can use the notes section of the course,
a piece of paper. And yes, even though I told you to put your cell phone away, if
you want to write it down on your cell phone. Do that. But don't keep watching
videos just yet. I want you to write down one highly specific goal you have.
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04: Key to Making Goals Become Reality Is Breaking
Elements Down Into Daily Habits.
Don't worry, I'm going to give you some lengthy in-depth video lectures in this
course. But this one's also going to be really short. And it's because I want to really
stress a particular principle. I do want you to have big, lofty goals. And they may be
things like make a billion dollars, retire at age 35. Cure the entire world of malaria.
They may be big goals, but I want you to get used to really breaking them down
into highly, highly specific goals that you can do on a daily basis in the form of a
habit. I want you to start thinking in terms of that, because that's where most
people fail. They may have no goals yet. They have goals. They go nowhere because
they don't break it down into simple bite size. So that's why I'm starting off with
the bite sized up. But don't worry, there's lots of depth to come.
05: Reminder, This is a Real Course With a Real Instructor
Here for You
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Quick reminder, this is a life course now you're watching this video on demand. But
I'm a real person. I'm here for you. I'm a full time uni instructor, and I am here for
you. So. Use it, all you have to do is post a question in the student Q&A section or
you can go to the Facebook page. I've created just for my Udemy students.
You can see the link below. If you go to the Facebook page, realize you're not going
to get spam, you're not going to be sent promotions. It's just a place for you to ask
questions, engage. Leave comments and have a discussion. So my goal is to make
this the absolute best learning experience for you possible to really change your
life. And if all you do is sort of sit back and watch a video, go to the next one, it's
not nearly as meaningful as when you share your own reflection. I realize some
goals are too personal. You don't want to tell the whole world. That's OK. But where
you do feel like sharing. Please realize this is a community where people
collaborate. It's not a place where people criticize each other. So whether you're
posting comments on the student Q&A section or on the Facebook page, I do look
at them. I do respond to them in a timely manner. So please reach out.
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06: Your Ultimate Goal Is Living a Life of Meaning, Purpose,
Fulfillment, Happiness
Let's step back for a minute and talk about the big picture here. This is a course on
goal setting. But why do we want goals? I think if you really dig deeply enough, all
of us at some level want the same thing. We have different taste. We have different
specific goals. But all of us you meet, we want the goal of living a good life.
And that can mean different things to different people. But it means living a life of
fulfillment. Living a life that gives you a sense of accomplishment. A life that makes
you happy. Living a life that gives you the health you want, the wealth you want.
There can be very specific goals. You may aspire to be a billionaire. You may aspire
to have no money. There's no right or wrong specific goal. But the general goals are
happiness, fulfillment. Living a life of purpose. So that's why I've created this
course. And that's Oregon. To learn together is how to set goals that are specific to
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helping you in every aspect of your life, not just how to become a millionaire by age
20 or a billionaire by age 35.
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The Piecemeal Approach Doesn’t Work. You Need to Set
Goals for Your Entire Life
The piecemeal approach does not work. Now, I differ from some experts to talk
about and write about goals and goals setting. I think that you need to really give
thought to all of your big goals in life and not just have a siloed approach of working
on one goal, because the idea of saying I'm going to be a millionaire by the time I'm
25 and you completely neglect your health, your relationships, well, you may end
up at a hospital and be poorer than ever. So it doesn't work to fixate on just one
go. You may spend more time during the day going after one specific goal, but you
need to have clear cut goals set for every sphere of life because they complement
each other. They go together. So in this cause, I'm going to ask you to really give
tremendous thought and reflection and to write down your goals in the seven
major spheres of life as I see it, when it comes to goal setting. The first one is your
own self-control self agency, how you actually control your body thoughts during
the day. The second big sphere for you to set specific goals, your health. Do you
want to be healthy? Do you want to have energy? Do you want to have a good
night's sleep? Do you want to be your proper weight? These are specific goals.
You need to have in mind because it affects every other part of your life. The next
big sphere, relationships, friendships and love. Human beings cannot just work in a
silo. You have to be connected. Now, you don't have to be married. You don't have
children. There's a lot of different ways of relating to human beings. But you have
to have very specific goals as to what sort of relationships you want to have in life.
If you're going to be happy and fulfilled, the next big area in life where you need to
have specific goals, learning, lifelong learning. You've got to decide if you're going
to be a lifelong learner. Now, you're in this course, which is a good sign. That tells
me you are serious about learning, but you've got to have very specific goals for
yourself when it comes to your whole attitude about yourself being a lifelong
learner. That leads to the next huge sphere of life where you need to have specific
goals. Being a creator now doesn't mean you have to be Picasso and make artwork
all day long. There's so many different ways of creating. You can create online
courses, books, novels. How to. You can create apps. You can create software .You
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could create a work environment in your hospital that results in the happiest
workforce ever. There's many, many ways of being creative. But someone who
truly wants to live life to ultimate fulfillment, I believe has to create. And you have
to demonstrate your creation. That's your way of really sharing to the world. That's
a way of having purpose for the world that's meaningful. The next big sphere,
where often it gets short shrift, especially by people who consider themselves
ambitious, and that is having goals for yourself when it comes to Lesia. Hobbies.
That's right. The most successful Nobel laureates are also the ones most likely to
have two or more really active hobbies. You look at some of the most successful
leaders in the history of the world, whether it's in government, whether it's politics,
the private sector, they had hobbies like painting, building brick walls. Crossword
puzzles. You need to have specific goals for yourself and not just say, well, I'll worry
about that when I'm retired. That's not a balanced healthy doesn't mean you have
to play golf four hours a day. But you do need to have specific goals for yourself,
because if you feel too deprived, if you feel like your life is just a miserable slog,
even if you're advancing and other goals, it's going to hurt you in the long run. Now,
the final sphere and for many people, this is what they think of as the first sphere
wealth. What are your goals for yourself for? Well, if you think of wealth as a rich,
people are bad or evil and some of them are. But if you think of it is inherently bad,
you're going to have one set of goals. If you think of wealth is something that you
want dessert, need you're willing to work towards, then you need to have specific
goals. This is what I see as the seven major spheres of life where you have goals. So
I'll be talking throughout this course on how you can set big goals in these seven
spheres, but also little goals and micro goals to all fit together to bring you a life of
fulfillment, joy and contentment you desire. So keep that in mind. It can't just be
about I get to make a million dollars this year. Everything else must be in sync. You
need goals for every part of your life. Because if you don't set them, someone else
will.
08: You Will Become Your Own Best Life Coach.
You must become your own life coach. Now, you may be in this course to teach
yourself how to set goals. You may be looking for techniques on how to teach other
people to set goals. You may be an aspiring life coach. Either way, first and
foremost, you have to be a life coach for yourself. You've got to get your life in
order first. You've got to build the habits of setting your own goals in life, because
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what is unique about living in this part of the 21st century is that never in the history
of humankind had there been so many smart people with so much engineering
power and computing power and budgets behind them, trying to influence you and
your life goals. I'm talking about the good folks at Google and Facebook and
YouTube and Netflix and McDonald's and KFC. All of these major corporations are
trying to reach out to you every single day with messages, advertisements, emails,
text to set your brain with the goals they want for you. They want you to have a
lifetime of being a consumer, watching, eating junk food and having a life of
mediocrity. You've got to fight that. That's what this course is about. The first and
foremost, you must accept the job. I can't be your life coach. It's not something you
can't outsource. First and foremost, you have to be your own life coach, which
means you have to clearly establish what your own goals are for life.
09:Focus On Just One Goal For Today
We're going to work on big goals for your entire life. But for a moment, I want you
to think about drilling down to today, because the big goals, the lifetime goals
typically are reached because specific actions taken on a daily basis. So right now,
I want you to have one goal for yourself and I want you to write this down, one goal
for yourself today. It could be as simple as I'm going to watch 10 more minutes of
this course on setting goals in life. But write it down and be very specific. Don't try
to accomplish 100 or 200 goals every day. Today, I have one major goal, and that is
to make all of the videos for this cause today. I'm going to shoot one hundred
videos. Yes, I have, like you, a million other things I have to do today. But by
focusing on this one goal, I've written it down. It's on my calendar. I blocked
everything out. I've turned off my cell phone and Internet connection that allows
me to focus on this one goal by accomplishing this one goal. It fits into the larger
goal of I make an online course, a new one every week that fits into the larger goal
of reaching more people every year. Having a million students, getting to a certain
level of income, that helps me reach a larger goal as far as it goes on and on and
on. But the starting point. Is that you've got to figure out what is your number one
goal for today? Please don't fast forward write it down now.
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10: What Are the Top 3 Goals You Have for this Course
I do want to hear from you. This is an interactive course, and this course is always
changing, evolving based on what you tell me you're looking for and you need. So
before we go any further, I want you to tell me, what are the top three goals you
have for this cause? What are the top three things you want to get out of this
course? Now, you don't want to be overly personal. You want to tell us you want
to get married the next six months. But if you want to tell us in general and tell me
specifically what your goals are, is far is improving your health, building stronger
relationships, taking your career to the next level. Tell me what the top three goals
you have are for this course. Go ahead. Type it into the student Q&A section or in
the student Facebook page linked below. I want to hear from you.
11: Once You've Set Your Goals, Achieving Goals Becomes
Most Important
This is, of course, about setting goals for your life. But let's keep something in mind,
setting goals is relatively easy. The hard part is achieving goals. So this course is
going to give you a lot of tips on how to do both. Now, you can't achieve a goal if
you don't even have a goal, obviously. But for many of us, we have goals. But
they're fuzzy general, their New Year's resolutions. I'm going to lose 40 pounds
between now and the beach season. That's a goal. How does that work for you, if
that's all there is to it? I'm a huge believer that goals in and of themselves are
meaningless unless you take the time to break things down into daily habits that
you have to display in order to reach those goals. So that's what this course is all
about, not just how to set goals, but how to achieve goals and specific techniques,
tips and tactics on how you can do that. Because let's say it's fun to sort of sit back
and have the vision board. Here's the mansion I'm going to live in. Here's my
beautiful spouse. Here's what my three beautiful kids will look like. I'll be able to
retire at 35 and I'll be a billionaire by forty five and I'll visit 200 countries. Yeah.
Those are goals, but they don't really mean much. You don't put them into the
larger context of your vision of the good life, the macro level and specifically the
habits you want to undertake and are willing to undertake on a daily basis.
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12:Avoid this! The Biggest Mistake You Can Make When It
Comes to Goal Setting
The biggest possible mistake you can have regarding setting goals in life, no goals
whatsoever. And this is amazingly common with a lot of people. Now, the fact that
you're in this course and this far into this cause means you are serious about setting
goals. That's great. But perhaps up till now, you've kind of drifted through life
without any goals, because, let's face it, there's so many other people and
organizations ready to hand you their list of goals your parents may have tried to
tell you. Your goal in life is to be a doctor or a lawyer or an engineer. You may have
had teachers or professors tell you your goal is to do this. Certainly, if you have any
connection to the Internet, which I know you do, every major corporation in the
world has goals for you. As far as how you can send them money to buy their
products and services or to watch their content so that they can make money and
sell advertising. So that's the big problem with not having goals, is we now live in a
world where you are bombarded, inundated all day long, every second of the day,
with thousands, sometimes tens of thousands of messages or other people telling
you what your goals should be. So the first big step, if you want to be able to set
goals, is to realize if you don't have any goals and then to realize the problem. The
problem is typically is you're not giving your brain actual time to think and reflect.
If you're connected 24/7, as so many people are and as you and I are now, you'll
never have time to create and set your own goals, because every second you're
connected to the Internet, you're being bombarded by other people's goals for you.
And we'll talk about this at length later on in the course when it comes to the
section on your own self-control, your own personal agency. But you've got to
carve out some time just for you without being bombarded by any other messages.
That means time away from the television, away from the laptop, the iPad, your
cell phone. You've got to have time just for you. It even means time away from
print magazines and books, even though I do think it's great to spend some time
every day reading books. You've got to have some time for personal reflection.
It could be in the form of a walk, which is something I do every single day and try
to walk for an hour a day. You can say, T.J., that's unrealistic. I don't have an hour
a day. You've got to carve out some time, even if it's just 10 minutes on a bus or a
train on your way to work or a 10 minute walk around the block at your house with
your dog. You've got to carve out some time to actively think, contemplate. Reflect
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on your vision of the good life. And I realize that sounds pretentious, but what do
you do it or not? It has to be done. It's going to be done by other people who are
telling you that the good life is about buying this kind of automobile and wearing
this kind of sneaker to make yourself look good to others. Or it's going to be done
by you. It cannot be done by you. If you don't give yourself. Time to reflect. So I
believe you have to do this every single day. There's different methods of doing it.
I meditate every day. I recommend that. But you don't have to go for a walk every
day. Do something. And by the way, leave your phone at home going for a walk.
Doesn't really relax you or give you time to reflect. If you're like most people I see
who are on walks and they're going this the whole time and their head is buried
down. Checking e-mail and on the phone, you might as well stay at home. Got to
give yourself time every day to reflect, because your goals can change your tactics
on how you reach your goals can change. But you're not going to be able to figure
this out. You won't figure out what's best for you if you don't have time. You're not
going to have time to think about your goals, reflect on your goals, set goals that
are in your best interest. If you don't push away all the other images, ideas and
messages from other people trying to give you their goal. So here's the assignment.
I want you to figure out some part of every day when you're not looking at a screen
where you can just reflect on goals could be seen as you get up. It could be I don't
recommend this, but it could be five minutes before you go to bed. Most people
are watching TV or videos or YouTube and then brushing their teeth and go into
bed. Most people, when they're commuting, are listening to music and music is
great. But that's not what it's really going to give you time to think and reflect.
And it shouldn't be when you're tired. You need to be up, I believe. Earlier in the
day, because if you're tired, you're thinking now it's time to go to sleep. And let me
just put my head down and now I'll think about it. That's not the time for reflection.
That's time to just drift away. So don't do that. So share with us right now in the
student Facebook page or the Q&A section. What is a specific time of day? You're
going to spend every single day to reflect on your life's goals.
13:The Second Biggest Goal Setting Mistake - Being Too
Fuzzy
The second biggest blunder most people make when it comes to setting goals for
their life is they make their goals too abstract or too generic or too fuzzy. And at
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that point, there's really no difference between a goal and a wish. If I say I have a
goal of becoming a world famous surgeon. And that's it. What does that mean? If
you dig a little deeper, you might find out that I'm saying that because my parents
told me that would be a respectable thing to do and I'd make a lot of money in
reality. Maybe I hate the sight of blood. Maybe I hate chemistry. There's no way I'm
ever going to pass the organic chemistry class in college. So the goal for me to
become a surgeon or a doctor is frankly a waste of time. It's just a general fuzzy
aspiration. I'm sure you have friends who say, yes, I've started this great new diet.
I'm going to lose 50 pounds by beach season. And you see them three or four
months later and they weigh the same or more than before. And they're talking to
you about the newest diet they're on while eating a bag of potato chips and
drinking a soft drink in front of you, losing 50 pounds as an abstract, fuzzy, general
notion. Meaningless if you don't couple it with a daily habit of not drinking soft
drinks, not eating garbage, food out of a bag, eating healthier exercise. It is made
up of 100 other little daily habits. If you want to actually lose weight, one of the
most generic and therefore worthless goals people often tell themselves they have.
I want to be rich and successful so they end up bouncing around from job to job to
job thinking. This time I'll get lucky. This time I'll strike it rich. In my observation,
looking at the most successful people in the world, the richest people in the world,
they never start off with the goal of I want to be rich. They start off with a goal of
trying to use their intelligence, their insights, their creativity in a way to help the
most number of people in a way that their customers benefit their clients and they
benefit, too. I'm not saying they're all altruistic, but they started off with a vision of
creating something and that's what grew there. Well, Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Warren
Buffett. If you really look at their histories, children, young men, it was never about
them saying, I want to make more money than anyone else so I can have the biggest
car and the biggest house. That's not what made them successful. They focused on
creating something. The wealth came And that is the biggest problem with most
people who are starting off life or their career or they're out of high school or
college or graduate school and they're just thinking in terms of wealth. I want to be
rich. I want to make 10x the money I made last year. I'm not saying you can't have
specific, quantifiable financial goals, but the goal of just being rich in and of itself.
It's like clouds in the sky. It's fuzzy. It's amorphous. It doesn't really mean anything.
Now, it does mean something is save yourself. I wanted to give the best in the world
at delivering this service, are creating this product, and I'm willing to work really
hard every single day and I'm willing to refine it and market it to the whole world.
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Yet people like that often do get wealthy. But it's the thing they're trying to do.
That's making them wealth. It's not the sheer desire for. Well, you've seen the
statistics, as have I. The vast majority of people who set New Year's resolutions do
not fulfill. But most of them are broken, certainly by the end of the first quarter.
Many of them by the first week of the new year because it's not backed up with
specific tactics. It's not backed up with habit changes your goals in life. What you
reach in life is primarily a function of your daily habits. Of course, there's Luk.
I'm not going to tell you everything is about who works the hardest. Life is unfair
based on where you were born, what you might look like, your race, your gender,
your skin color. All of these things can create factors that work against you or for
you. But I believe the biggest factor in people who end up really successful in life is
about their daily habits. And that's what you can control and that's what we're
gonna go into. More detail in this course is helping you not just have general, vague,
fuzzy goals, but how to have highly concrete, specific goals. Of course, you still have
to have macro level goals for the different spheres you have in life, but you'll never
just leave it there. You're not going to say, oh, my goal is to be healthy, healthy and
fit, completely meaningless abstract goal. It's only meaningful if you then break that
down into a daily exercise routine, a daily eating, healthy eating routine, daily
healthy sleep patterns, all of those things, you put them together. Now, all of a
sudden, good health, proper weight that can become a meaningful goal. So that's
the second biggest blunder most people make. First, of course, as I mentioned in
the previous lecture, just not having any goals. The second biggest blunder, having
goals that are too general, vague, fuzzy, and they're just a wish.
14:Here's How This Course Is Different from All Other Goal
Setting Courses
Just a quick note on how this course is different from all other courses on goal
setting. Of course, you're going to hear some advice here that you hear other
places. It's good to write down your goals. It's good to reflect on your goals. We'll
go over the basics and the fundamentals. But here's what's different. What I find
for most people is there is a problem of getting the reminders, the triggers to force
them into the daily habits they need to make their goals become real. So what I've
done is I've created a unique proprietary system that involves you basically
brainwashing yourself. Now hear me out. That sounds like a negative term. What
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I'm talking about is using the same techniques that advertisers do only this time.
You are the creative director of the ad, and it involves you simply taking your cell
phone recording ads, messages to yourself that support your life goals. You simply
tell yourself what habits you want to do today and everyday daily habits. You only
had to record it once. Then with one click of the button, you listen to it every day.
You can be driving, walking, doing other things. But you are advertising to yourself
messages that support the specific habits you need to reach the goals you want in
life. So, for example, if you have a goal of becoming a bestselling author or a New
York Times best selling author, that's a nice, lofty, abstract goal. But you need a
habit of writing at least 100 or 500 or a thousand words every single day. That's in
my selfie speak program. That's the name I call this selfie speak. Program. You're
used to taking selfie pictures of your own face and family. This is a way for you to
use your cell phone to take a selfie of your audio. Of your goals, your dreams and
the habits you want. Now there's going to be a whole section later on the course
about Southy speak programming. So this is just a taste right here. But this is what
makes everything come together. The Southey Space Program is what cements in
you this ability to take on new daily habits that support your life goals.
15:Write Down Your Goals AND Read Them Daily
You need to write down your biggest goals in life. And here's the thing. Just doing
that by itself doesn't do much. You have to read your goals. I believe, on a daily
basis. Now, what I like to do is I have a folder, right? My cell phone for my big
lifetime goals and visions. It's only about five or six bullet points. And I'll share with
you, it includes things like become the number one habit's expert, helping people
around the globe with their goals and their personal development. To become the
number one in the world and to reach a larger audience. So I have goals, their goals
for my family, life, happiness, health. Here's the thing. I can read all of these goals
in a total of about fifteen seconds. And then I just put a W for a win, meaning I did
that today. Keeps me accountable. I do it every single day. It does no good to come
up with great goals. Write it down and forget about it. You need the constant
reminder, daily reminders. It only takes me fifteen seconds. You could probably do
it in five or ten seconds, but write your goals down. You can change them once a
year or once a month or more often or less often. But you need to read them every
single day. You need to orient your brain so that it's thinking about not every
second of the day, but it's spending some time every day thinking about the goals.
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And it helps process everything else you're doing in your life through the prism of
those goals. So. It's not enough to write it down. You need to read your goals every
single day.
What is Unique about Goal setting in the 2022
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16: The Challenge of Goal Setting in the 2020s
Setting life goals for yourself in the twenty twenties and beyond is very different
from setting life goals for yourself. Any other time in the last two hundred thousand
years of human existence. Let's face it, for most of human existence, life was about
scarcity. There wasn't enough food to eat. You're likely to starve to death. There
was very little entertainment if you had even one book in your home. You were
considered lucky. You couldn't really buy that much stuff. You could make a chair
for your house. You'd have a small log cabin. But for most of human history, life
was about scarcity. Not enough food, not enough shelter. Entertainment was a
luxury content, books, things to enrich your mind. Those were things not even
contemplated by most humans. Throughout history, things started getting a lot
better. After the Enlightenment, more and more people around the world did have
enough food, although to this day there's still starvation and scarcity among the
bottom billion people in terms of their revenues. But things were getting a lot
better for the last hundred couple of hundred years since the Enlightenment. But
things have changed drastically in the last 20 years, 15 years in particular. So much
of it is because the Internet and beyond the Internet, coupled with this thing, the
cell phone, we are now living in an era of over abundance throughout most of
human history. To be poor was to suffer malnourishment and often starvation
these days. And certainly developed Western countries. The biggest problem, if you
are the lower income bracket, is, frankly, obesity. This is not a problem that has
ever been a part of humanity until recently. So it's never been easier to grow and
purchase inexpensive food .We have an overabundance of cheap food that is filling
our bodies with sugar, carbohydrates. Fat, salt. Things that are destroying our
health. It's never been easier to go on Amazon and fill your house with plastic and
gizmos and gadgets and clothes and bicycle and things that just have you
overwhelmed with stuff. Consumer possessions to show people your social status.
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And, of course, it's never been easier to consume videos, movies, entertainment,
video games, social media content. We've gone from a world where most people
had free time all day long when they weren't working in a field. And maybe they
had one book to read at home to now. Most people with an Internet connection
have a million books at their fingertips and millions and millions and millions of
videos, movies, online content. It is absolutely overwhelming. So now the biggest
problem for most people, if you're wealthy enough to afford access to a computer
or phone and Internet to watch the show, then chances are you're wealthy enough
to have the issue of too much food, too many possessions, too much stuff and too
much content entertainment, trying to get attention with your brain. So that is the
landscape we are in right now. And we've got to realize that so the strategies have
to be completely different. If you want to take control over the goals for your life,
if you actually want to set. The goals for your life, you got to figure out a way of
stopping and dealing with and organizing this over abundance. And that's what
we're going to work on in this course, because until you deal with this firehose of
ideas, content, videos, messages, jokes, entertainment, cheap food, anything in the
world brought to your home from Amazon with one click can tell you. Deal with
that. You're never going to be able to deal with your own goals for your own life.
17: Take Back Control of Your Senses
You have got to take back control over your own eyes, your own ears, your own
nose, certainly your mouth and what you touch. That's right. All of your senses,
because they are under assault. They're under assault by the smartest people in
the world, the richest people in the world with the biggest engineering advances,
the biggest advantage in artificial intelligence and the largest budgets behind them.
I am talking about the major tech corporations in the world, the Googles, the
Microsoft, the Apples, the Netflix, the Facebook. And I use all of them. I like all of
them. But you have to learn how to control them, not to mention the Amazons of
the world bombarding you with opportunities to fill your home, your office, your
car, your life with more stuff. Plus, Coca-Cola is with the world. The McDonald's of
the world, the largest processed food manufacturers in the world, all trying to
convince you to fill your body with garbage. That will make you more lethargic and
craving more and more sugar and fat to get a short term high energy boost from a
candy bar. But ultimately making you sick, overweight, obese, diabetic and on your
way to an early grave. So, yeah, right now decide you're going to control what
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you're going to decide actively what goes into your brain and you're going to have
to put controls on it. Let me give you a specific example. For most of my life, I've
been someone passionate about news, public affairs, politics, and for many years
in my life, I was a full time talk radio host and had to spend basically every waking
hour following the news. But that's not my life anymore. Chances are, unless you're
a full time journalist, that's not your life either. And yet most of us still waste way
too much time consuming news. We get up in the morning, we check the news,
maybe we turn on cable television, news, radio, constantly checking news while we
have breaks in between meetings or on phone calls with people. It's eating away at
your brain. It destroys your ability to think for yourself. So one very specific habit
that I follow that I hardly endorse is a strict time limit for news consumption
in the morning. For me, I pick 30 minutes a day. Now, there's some personal
development experts who say no nose, no nose at all. The news will find you.
I think that's going too far. If you want to be a good citizen. But I do limit it to no
more than 30 minutes a day in the morning reading news. Now I read news. I do
not watch television or video news because I find it takes too much time. It's a very
slow delivery mechanism. And video is inherently less able to go into the substance
than the facts and the meat of a story that I find interesting, useful and relevant by
limiting myself to 30 minutes of news in the morning instead of what I used to do
two hours, three hours in the morning. I now have time to read more books, to
write 500 words a day on my courses and books, to study other aspects for future
courses, to spend my time on personal development, on exercise, on eating healthy
so much more time because I took control and I shut down the inbound messages
coming to me from news. Now, we'll talk about this in terms of email. Notifications.
Text message. There's a lot of different ways the media and big tech companies and
our friends can take over our brains by coming at us through our cell phone
primarily. But the news is just one of them. You've got to come up with goals for
yourself of what is going into your brain. Because without that, you cannot have
goals, realistic goals of what's going to come out of your brain in terms of what
you're creating. You're your projects, your books, your body of work in your
profession. If everything is about incoming and processing content, it'll rot your
brain. You'll never come up with an original idea yourself. So this is absolutely
crucial. I want you to give some thought now on how you can put strict controls,
how much time you're going to spend. Consuming media. Traditional news in a day.
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How much time are you going to spend on social media? How much time are you
going to spend? Checking email. It's probably more than you think. Start
formulating your goals for all of these intakes. Right now.
18. Get Ready to Start Making Your Own Selfie Speak
Programming
As a reminder, a little further in the course, I'm going to teach you step by step the
process for creating your own selfie speak program. That's where you pick up a cell
phone and you just go to the audio memo, record function. You hit record and you
start talking to yourself. It's not a slick ad. You don't have to have special music.
You not to hire a voice over artist. You just talk to yourself and tell yourself what
you want your goals to be in life and the habits you're going to do on a daily basis
to back up your goals. So regarding the last lecture on content, just record yourself
and state your goals for mine. It's as simple as T.J. You will consume no more than
30 minutes of news per day. You will check email at most twice a day. You will
spend no more than 15 minutes per day on social media. It's just a conversation
stating my goals and stating my goals. And they form a daily habits recorded once.
And I listen to the same one every day. More about the selfie speak program. As
we progress.
19. This Is What Is Holding You Back In Your Goal Setting
Process
Before we progressed, I want to know from you. What do you think the biggest
obstacles are right now when it comes to you setting your life goals, the biggest
goals you really care about, what's holding you back? Do you feel lost? You feel.
Not sure if they're big enough for the third too small or too this or too that. What's
holding you back from really clarifying your life goals? I want you to share this with
me. And I realize it's personal. We're all in this together. No one's making
judgments. So please share with me on the student Facebook page below, link
below. And you can also share in the student Q&A section right here within you to
me.
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The seven goal spheres of life
Chapter 3:
20.
Creating Goals for the Seven Spheres of Your Life
In this action, we're really going to cover all the major seven spheres of life where
you can have goals and then habits that affect your goals. I hit on this earlier, but I
want to really remind you now to start thinking big picture for all of these areas of
your life. The first one, and it's first for a reason. It's about basic self-control, self
agency, your sense of really your ability to control your world. The second sphere,
your own personal health, the third sphere relationships, love, friendships, how
you interact with human beings. The fourth sphere, life long learning. What is your
philosophy on how you're going to continue using this thing to grow your brain
throughout your life? The fifth sphere creation. What are you going to create? How
is your purpose in life really going to add to the rest of the world? Doesn't have to
be a painting, doesn't have to be a book that not to be software, but it has to be
something. What are you going to create that really demonstrates your true value
to the world? The sixth element, Letia, you need some hobbies, you need some
time off. You need some part of your life to be just about fun and relaxation. It
seems almost trivial compared to your big mission in life, but it's an important part
of your life. The seventh sphere for many of you, it may be what's getting you into
this course I have at seventh for a reason. I had it last for a reason because I have
found it. The other six spheres of life are in sync and you have strong goals for the
other six. The seventh takes care of itself. The seventh. Well, what do you want to
get as far as money and the stuff money buys? You need to have clear cut goals for
yourself. So that's the overview of this section. I'll now give you a much more
detailed perspective on each one of these spheres so you can start planning your
own life goals for each one.
21:Goals for Your Self-Control and Agency
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The first sphere of life, self-control, self agency. You have got to establish goals for
yourself in this realm. Now, you may think, well, of course, I want to be a control
of myself, but what does this really mean? You have got to decide in advance who
is in charge of your life. Is it going to be you? Is it going to be fate? Is it going to be
your parents? Society. The opinions of your peers? Who is really going to decide
your life? And how are you going to do it on a daily basis? If you want to weigh a
healthy weight, are you going to take charge of that? Are you going to personally
own that or are you going to say, wow, it's fate, it's genes, it's this, it's that. Are you
going to take control over your career, your personal relation, all these other
spheres, or are you going to take the attitude that life happens? What's meant to
be will be. There very different visions you can have about this issue of self-control.
You've got to give real thought to it and decide how much control you want to exert
over your life. Once you've made that, then we could fill it in with all different levels
of habits to help you achieve your long term goals, short term goals, tiny goals and
everything in between.
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Your Health Goals
The next big sphere of life, you've got to decide your goals, your health. What is
your vision for health? Your own personal health? Can you can take a fixed mindset,
a closed mindset. This as well. Whatever is my genes or this. My parents died at
57, so I'm going to die at 57. Or you could have a more expansive, more open view
of your health that you want to live to be 100 and healthy or live forever, that you
can be physically active, that you deserve a good night's sleep. Your vision of how
much sleep you deserve is so huge. Most people don't realize it. Those people who
think of themselves as highly ambitious, they want to treat themselves like a
pauper when it comes to their own sleep throughout most of human history. Even
the poorest of poor people got eight, nine, 10, sometimes eleven hours of sleep a
night. And yet people who think of themselves as ambitious of deserving the best
these days. Want to scrimp and get by on five or six hours? You have to give real
thought to what you want to do in the realm of health for your life, because wealth
isn't just about money. Wealth is about how richly you live like it. All seven of these
spheres. And if you're rich and you have the nicest car and the biggest mansion,
but your health is a shambles, it's not going to be worth much more details in the
next section about how to really parse every aspect of your health to fit in with
your goals. Long term, short term and on a daily basis.
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23. Goals for Relationships, Friendships and Love
Relationships, friendships, love, sex. This is so much of what being a human being
is all about. When you listen to people who are on their deathbed, they've got
terminal disease. They know they're going to die within the next few months.
Typically, they don't regret that they didn't work harder or didn't make more
money. They regret not spending more time with friends. Maintaining friendships.
You do not want to live your life. And at the end of it, have huge regrets regarding
your relationships. So you've got to really start thinking about what are your goals
for your relationships in life. Now, there are different types of needs. So people
want to have a thousand friends. Some people just need two friends. Some people
want a spouse and 10 children. Some people don't ever want a spouse. That's okay.
But you need relationships with other human beings. You cannot just live alone on
an island and be happy unless something really bad happen to you typically.
So start thinking about what your overall goals are for your life. When it comes to
your relationships with other human beings, again, friendships, platonic
relationships, romantic relationships, marriage, family, sex, all of these together
are about your relationships with human beings. You need to have clear cut goals
for what you want out of your relationships in life.
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Lifelong Learning Goals
So much of the joy in life is learning and experiencing new things. So much of what
makes someone seem old out of touch, fuddy duddy is their unwillingness to learn
new things. Oh, I'm not going to learn how to is text messages or e-mail or a fax.
Believe it or not. Every new generation has new technology, new ideas, new ways
of learning. And that's going to continue. If you really want to see yourself as a
human being able to grow and continue growing throughout your whole life,
lifelong learning is essential. You cannot just say stop. Now I've learned everything.
I don't want any more. I graduated from high school or college. If you really want
to be a human being who experiences the greatest life has to offer, you have to
embrace the concept of life long learning. It doesn't mean getting your fifth P HD
and being a full time student doesn't mean never going out with friends because
you're reading 10 books every night. It does mean coming up with a system,
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whether it's books, podcast, online courses where you are consistently learning
throughout your life.
25: Creativity and Creation Goals
Society often gives its greatest rewards in respect to the creators, people who
create great works of architecture or songs or novels or stories or movies or
software companies, people who create touch the whole world. You want to be
Picasso. You don't have to be Steve Jobs. But to create something that is
experienced by the whole world is something that gives anyone a tremendous
sense of satisfaction and purpose. Everyone was creative as a child. Look at small
children. They're all incredibly creative. Unfortunately, this creativity gets stomped
out of us by society, schools, parents, family. But it's still there. What is your vision
for yourself when it comes to your creation? What do you want to create? What is
your legacy? How do you want to touch the whole world when you can't be right
there talking to someone or working one on one? All human beings have the
capacity to create. But not everyone does. What is your vision for you, sir? What
are your goals when it comes to what you create? What you demonstrate to the
world when it comes to your ideas?
26. Leisure Goals
You have to have some fun in life. That may sound trivial. You may be thinking, T.J.,
I'm working hard on creating a billion dollar business. I don't have time for that.
Well, it's a sad thing when you see people retire at 60, 65, 70 and say, now I can
relax and have fun. And then they realize there's nothing in their life. All they can
do is watch the news or watch Wheel of Fortune. They have no sense of true
leisure. They have no hobbies. They have no passion projects. Here's the interesting
thing, if you looked at the top Nobel Prize winning physicist, those and other
aspects of science, the people who win the most, do the best, often have more
hobbies than the non winners. They often have two or more serious hobbies. A
hobby can be painting. It could be fishing. It could be riding your bicycle across the
country. It's about something you do for fun. It's not for money, not necessarily for
fame or attention. It's just what you do for fun. It could be woodworking. It could
be building brick walls, but you need some time for leisure. The great kings, the
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great leaders. Members of royalty have always enjoyed their leisure time, and
these days it doesn't have to be just a king or a prince or queen. It can be you. What
is your sense of how you deserve to use your leisure time? You're going to be
successful in every other aspect of life. You're going to have time. And it can't be
just time making more money. What is it you want to do? What is your sense that
you always want to become a polo player? Did you always want to master the harp?
Start thinking now about your goals for yourself. When it comes to your leisure
time.
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Wealth Goals
The final sphere where you really need to come up with your goals for life. Wealth.
Your finances, how much money do you need to have to make in order for you to
be personally satisfied? And the answer can't just be more. The answer is more.
You'll never be happy. You will die a dissatisfied person, and that would be a shame.
Too many people I speak with had never really thought about this. Clearly, I'll ask
some. So my friends or associates, how much money do you need to be considered
successful to accomplish what you want? And so often the number is 50 million.
One hundred million dollars. And I always ask, well, what would you do with that?
And then a look of surprise on the face. Well, I'd buy a private jet so I could travel
anywhere. And then I point out. But you can travel anywhere now, and it's easier
than buying a jet, maintaining a jet, managing a pilot, a co-pilot, all the things
associated with managing your own flight. Well, yeah. But I could go any time. I
would save me time. No, it actually takes a lot of time to buy a plane, hire a pilot.
All the management things there. Well, I'll be so rich I can hire someone to do that.
Yeah, but now you have to hire the person you trust in charge of a multimillion
dollar project. That takes a lot of time. Turns out if you want to fly to Paris or if you
want to fly to Tokyo, you can do it right now with what's in your bank account.
This is not saying everyone can, but the friends I'm speaking to. That was no
problem. What turns out is they didn't really have a sense of what they would
spend the money on. It's just a sense of that gives more comfort. You could do
anything. Here's the real tragedy for many people across the globe. Once they get
to a certain level of affluence and it's not that much. In the U.S., it's only about sixty
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thousand dollars or so once you get beyond that level. Additional money doesn't
seem to get that much more happiness for people, that much more fulfillment. Yes,
all things being equal. More money is often helpful. It reduces stress. But how much
money do you need? Have a specific goal. I won't bore you with the famous stories
of certain movie stars who wrote 10 or 20 billion dollar checks to themselves, and
it was fulfilled later. You don't have to make 20 million dollars a movie to be
successful and to have accomplished your goals. But you do need to have some
specific amount in mind for what your goals are. And more important, what will
that money get you remember? Money in and of itself is worthless. No one truly
values money. They may say they do. But what people value is what money buys.
It can buy a home. College educations. Boats. Cars. Fancy clothes. Vacations .
Respect . But how much of that do you need and how much money do you need to
support family and charities and causes you care about? That's what I want you to
give real thought about. And as I mentioned before, I have this one last, because
what I have found is that if you are going down the path of lifelong learning and
you're creating and you're building good relationships with people you work with
and everything else in your life is in alignment. Typically, the well will cut doesn't
mean you shouldn't have specific goals. But if you're focusing on your career,
learning, creating, sharing your ideas with the world, the wealth will come.
The seven levels of goals within each sphere
Chapter 4:
28.Overview of the Seven Levels of Goals for Each Sphere
This is where it gets a little bit complicated. You heard me talk about the seven
major spheres of life where you need to have goals for each one of those. Now, I
want to go look deeper inside each one. There are seven levels that you have to
think about within each realm of the sphere of life. So let me walk you through this.
So, for example, the first level within every sphere is what is your big, broad,
general philosophy of this sphere? What's the good life? What is your vision of how
things could be? So, for example, in the first sphere of self-control, do you view the
ideal situation where someone can, in fact, control their own life? They're not
determined by fate, by the gods, by other outside dark forces. Do you even view
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that as a possibility? That's the first level of abstract. I'm going to walk you through
all of these for each one. The second one is determine your specific vision for
yourself. Big picture within this habit sphere. You could, for example, say, I think
that the ideal situation is that human beings have complete control over their own
life. But I'm different. I'm so constrained. I'm so hemmed in. I'm always going to be
dependent on what other people tell me I have to do. You could have that vision,
for example. So the first is the really big picture of what's the potential for this
sphere of life. The second one is where do you fit into that? Where is your particular
vision of yourself in that sphere of life? The third thing you've got to think about is
what are your long term goals within that particular sphere? By the way, there's a
hand out below that walks you through this and summarizes it as well. The fourth
item, the fourth level you have to really think about after your long term goals.
What are your specific short term goals? And there's a difference. We have a long
term goal of being a perfect health, ideal weight for your body type. But you're
going to have a short term goal of losing five pounds or getting faster at how quickly
you run a mile. You can have short term goals as well. The fifth level are the core
habits. You are going to do on a daily basis to help you reach your goals. Core daily
habits. So the field of health, for example, getting eight hours of sleep. Could be a
core daily habits that you need to help you with all your other goals for your health
in your life. The sixth specific level. Non core habit's things that you do on a regular
basis. But these are not absolutely critical. It might be things like avoiding sugar as
much as possible in your diet. It could be things like walking up steps instead of
taking the elevator to get more steps for your health. There's all sorts of good habits
you could do. To help support your goals, but they're not absolutely essential,
reading a novel once a month could be a non core habit that feeds your creativity.
But it's not something you feel like you have to read 20 pages a day. A novel in
order to fulfill your primary career objectives for your creativity field. And then the
final one, the final level, tiny micro habits you can do in 60 seconds or less. These
are really simple. These could be as simple as an affirmation. Where you simply tell
yourself, I'm going to quickly forget all failures and focus on my victories in life.
That's one. For example, I do every single day. I put that in the category of a tiny
microscopic habit that helps support other goals. So this is a tiny thing. Often you
could do it in 10 seconds or less. So these are the seven levels I look at through
each one of the spheres of life to help you figure out your goals. Because I have
found it so much easier to reach your goals in life, to achieve your goals. If you look
at your bills within the context of your entire life, when one part is out of whack,
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the other goals will often fall apart. If all of your goals are in sync with your vision
for that particular sphere in life, they all work together. They are complementary
and you can have a great life. Now, I'm going to walk you through how this is done
for every one of the spheres of life.
7 Levels of Goals for Each Habit Sphere
1. Philosophy of the good life for each sphere
2. Determine what your self-identity is as it relates
to this vision 3. Long term goals for that sphere
4. Short term goals for that sphere
5. Core daily habits for these goals
6. Nice, non-core habits for these goals
7. Micro 60 second habits (including 10 second
affirmations on goals)
29. Your 7 Levels of Goals for Self-Control
The first sphere of life, self-control, self agency. We're gonna go through the seven
levels right now. First of all, what is your grand vision of an ideal situation when it
comes to self agency? If you have an open mindset, positive mindset, then you
likely feel that individuals should be able to control their own destiny, that they
very much are in charge of their own. That doesn't mean bad things can happen to
people. But by and large, you as an individual are in control of your own life. You
are not simply subjected to fate outside forces. Luck is not the only thing that
matters. You have a tremendous amount of control. That's the step one. The macro
philosophical level of your vision for this sphere of life in self-control. Self agency.
The second level is your particular vision of yourself. Do you view yourself as
someone who is control? You're in control? Or do you kind of take this negative
closed mindset view that says, well, you know, I've tried losing weight. It never
works for me, I've tried advancing my career. I never get a lucky break. I've tried
changing my diet, but it's too hard. My friends and family just eat pizza all the time.
Do you take a defeatist attitude? Because it is possible to have a very, very positive
perception of what's possible in a particular field, but be negative, have a negative
mindset for yourself. So you can't assume one follows from the other. So that's the
second level is what is your vision? Of how you are going to fit into this. Do you see
yourself as someone who has absolute control over your own life? Do you control
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your own destiny? That is the second one. The third one. Your long term goals. Do
you want to have a business that you own. Where you answer to no one? Do you
want to have such business success that you can pick and choose all of the projects
you want to work on and say no to anyone you don't? Do you want to have such a
reputation? For your abilities that you can pick and choose the type of work you
do. These are long term goals. That is the third level you need to have when it
comes to every single sphere. Specifically, this one of self-control, self agency.
Do you see yourself as someone who eats the way you want to eat your whole life?
Controls your life? Controls your own calendar? Controls your own agenda? The
fourth level, the short term goals. Do you see yourself as someone who can control.
For example, exactly when you want to go to bed at night. You may adjust this from
time to time, but that has a huge effect of how you control your own life.
Are you someone who views yourself as someone who can control your own
environment? For example, one of my short term goals every day is to completely
clean my desk and office. I have some papers in my TV studio now, but before I
leave. Today, there won't be a single scrap of paper because that is a daily short
term goal I have for myself. So that's the fourth one. The fifth one, core daily habits
for these go. What is it you're going to do? Because I want a clean office. My core
daily habit there is I do things like clean my office every single day. I go to bed every
single night at nine o'clock and read till I fall asleep at 10. That is a core habit of
how I control myself. It is a specific daily habit. The six level, nine core habits, things
that it's nice to do but you don't have to do. What is it you do on a daily basis to.
Take control over your own life. This can be highly specific as far as you deciding
what you want to eat, when you want to eat it. Exactly what time you want to
answer emails, return calls. What are the specific things, the non core habits that
will make or break you? But they're still important. Finally, the teeny tiny micro
habits you have on a daily basis. They're not the most important things, these could
be affirmations. Now, for about a year, I had a specific micro habit of not answering
a phone. If it rings and I don't recognize the number and I'm not expecting the call
for many years, I was in a bad habit of someone call it. Oh, it could be a great
important prospect. Let me take the call. And it would waste my time disrupt by
train of thought and mess things up with. The phone solicitors wasting my time.
I had to tell myself every single day. A reminder in myself speak program and in my
text reminders. Never answer the phone. If it's not a conference call you're
anticipating or someone you wish to speak with. It's a tiny, tiny thing, an
affirmation. Five seconds to read. But it changed my habit there. So that's the walk
through for Sfeir one. I need you to look at the worksheet below and fill this out for
yourself when it comes to your vision of how you want to control your life. Your
goals for self agency.
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7 Levels of Goals for Each Habit Sphere
1. Philosophy of the good life for each sphere
2. Determine what your self-identity is as it relates
to this vision
3. Long term goals for that sphere
4. Short term goals for that sphere
5. Core daily habits for these goals
6. Nice, non-core habits for these goals
7. Micro 60 second habits (including 10 second
affirmations on goals)
30: Your 7 Levels of Goals for Health
The next sphere health. What is your big, broad philosophical view of the potential
of health? If you view life as something where people should be able to go through
life. Healthy, disease free, active. Live to a ripe old age and really enjoy life in a
vigorous way. That's a particular philosophy. If you view life as a series of pains.
Missouri's life is about physical agony. That is a different type of philosophy.So
that's your general philosophy. Now you have to figure out what is your vision of
yourself with respect to health. Now everybody's different. You may have had
lifelong health problems. Nothing you can do except for manage pain. You've got
to figure out what that is. For many, many people, myself included, been lucky
enough not to have any serious health problems. And the health problems that do
come up typically because of our own specific actions. You got to figure out what
your vision is for you. You could decide, for example, that you are going to be
health. You're gonna be energetic. You are going to be active. You are going to eat
the amount of food you need to maintain your ideal body weight. You're going to
get the perfect amount of sleep for yourself. You're going to be healthy and
vigorous and live a full, active disease. Free life doesn't mean bad things couldn't
happen, but it could be your vision for yourself. That is step two. Stephanie, what
are your long term goals for your health? You need to know what those are. It could
be to maintain your ideal body weight for the next 50 years. That's a perfectly
legitimate long term goal. You also need short term goals. Are you trying to get
ready to run a 10K? Are you trying to build your muscles to the point where you
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can bench press your own body weight? What are your specific short term goals
when it comes to your health? Are you trying to switch away from having sugary
breakfast or eating processed foods? What are your short term goals for yourself?
Next, you get to figure out what are your core daily habits to support your goals. If
you want a healthy body, you need to exercise every single day. So one of my core
habits is I walk at least six miles a day. I walk at least twelve thousand five hundred
steps every single day. That is a core, core habit. Next, you've got to decide what
are your non core habits? What are habits you do that support your health in a way
that it's a good. But it's not absolutely essential for me. It's playing sports. I like to
play tennis. Typically two or three times a week, sometimes more often, sometimes
only once a week. It's not something I have to do every day, but it supports my
health. It's good exercise and it supports my vision of myself, of living a fun, full,
active life. So that's an example for me of a non core activity. Finally, the seventh
level. What are the micro habits you do? Teeny tiny ones that you can do in 10, 20
seconds a day. To really help you with your health. For me, it's as simple as right
before I go to bed saying to myself, it's been a great day and now I deserve a great
eight hours of restful sleep and a little bit of a fist pump. Several sounds silly, may
even sound cheesy, but it only takes about five seconds and it primes me for a good
night's sleep. Now your turn. Can they hand out is below. You've got to fill out what
you want for these seven spheres of habits and attitudes when it comes to
your health.
7 Levels of Goals for Each Habit Sphere
1. Philosophy of the good life for each sphere
2. Determine what your self-identity is as it
relates to this vision
3. Long term goals for that sphere
4. Short term goals for that sphere
5. Core daily habits for these goals
6. Nice, non-core habits for these goals
7. Micro 60 second habits (including 10 second
affirmations on goals)
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31: Your 7 Levels of Goals for Relationships, Friendships
and Love
Love, friendships, relationships. That is the next sphere. What is your philosophy of
the ideal life here? Do you view people as mostly mean? Negative, cynical. Are you
wary of human beings? Do you feel like it's best to be alone, that people are a
bother? That is one philosophy of life. Or do you view life as about having
relationships with people, the joy of friendships, of romance, of marriage? Do you
view these as positive things? That is the first level. What is your philosophy of how
people should relate to other human beings in the world? The second level, you
need to think about your role. Do you view yourself as someone who is lovable? As
someone who is capable and worthy of relationships with other people? Do you
view yourself as someone fun and loving and deserving of friendships, of romance
and possibly marriage? This is critical. You have to have a positive vision of yourself
within this whole sphere of love, relationships and sex. You can't just have a
positive sense of potential, but view yourself as inherently unlovable. Or you could,
but that will end up with a very specific result. You can't also think of yourself as
deserving great love, great relationships, wonderful things, but have a
fundamentally negative, pessimistic view about how most people get along. They
need to be in sync in a way that works for you. The third thing you've got to really
think about is what are your long term goals? If, for example, you want to maintain
friendships with people you knew from high school 50 years later, you've got to
keep that in mind. That may mean going to reunion's making calls. Not every day
or even every month, but every six months or so may mean going to school
reunions. It may mean going to family reunions, seeing long lost uncles and aunts.
What are your long term goals? Then you got to think about what are your short
term goals. If it's getting along better with your child or your spouse, you've got to
think about what are your immediate short term goals. And that can include things
like having family dinner. Something I like to do every single night with my family.
So, so long term goals. Short term goals. Next, you got to think about core daily
habits to support these goals. For example, I try to reach out to one friend every
single day. Maybe a phone call. Maybe just a text. But some contact, some
connection with a friend. To me, that is a core habit in the same way, having dinner,
not just planning dinner, but having dinner with my wife and daughter every single
day and quite often lunch with both of them, too. These are core daily habits. Next,
you've got to think about nice but non core habits that support your relationships.
Do you get together once a month with friends in a nearby city or the nearest big
city with you? Do you actively reach out to people? Do you go to a networking event
or professional about to make new professional relationships with people? What
are the things you do not to be done every day? But they are great habits that
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support your goals. You've got to have specific ones for that each time. Also, finally,
what are the micro habits, the teeny tiny habits you can do 10, 20 seconds a day
that help support your relationships? For me, the simple affirmation saying I'm the
greatest father and the greatest husband in the world, and also I'm the luckiest
husband and luckiest father in the world because of having a great spouse and a
great child, a great daughter. So something simple and short, an EF four nation that
I can read really in five seconds. So you shouldn't copy me. But I do want you to use
the same framework of these seven levels of looking at a sphere in life. That way
you can put into context your goals. So do that now. Use the checklist below and
figure out what your seven levels are specific to relationships.
7 Levels of Goals for Each Habit Sphere
1. Philosophy of the good life for each sphere
2. Determine what your self-identity is as it relates to this vision
3. Long term goals for that sphere
4. Short term goals for that sphere
5. Core daily habits for these goals
6. Nice, non-core habits for these goals
7. Micro 60 second habits (including 10 second affirmations on
goals)
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Your 7 Levels of Goals for Lifelong Learning
Next, we're learning is so essential. I believe if you want to live a truly fulfilled life,
a life with purpose, there's nothing sadder than someone who gave up on learning.
It is just going through the motions in life. So start off with your philosophy. People
who have a fixed mindset say, well, you're limited by your IQ. Your position in life,
your education. Did you go to a prestigious school? High school. Prep school.
College? If not, that's kind of it. That's one view. The open mindset, the one I prefer
and I endorse, is the sense that human beings have an unlimited capacity to learn
for their entire life. Learning can take place in formal schools, colleges, universities,
but they can also take place informally through things like this, online learning and
books and podcasts and walks through nature. So you got to figure out what your
philosophy is when it comes to life long learning. Next, you have to figure out your
particular vision of yourself. Are you a lifelong learner or do you view yourself as
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someone who's constantly learning? Do you feel like you have grown as a person
from where you were 10 years ago, five years ago, a year ago, even two weeks ago?
Are you continuing to learn? You may have dropped out of school in the third grade,
but you're continuing to learn. You may have graduated from Harvard Law School
or medical school, but never cracked a book since then, and you're coasting on
what you learned a long time ago. So this can go both ways, regardless of your
formal education instruction. So that's what you got to figure out, is exactly what
is your vision for yourself next? You got to figure out what are your long term goals.
It may be to learn a foreign language. It may be to master a whole subject so that
you can make an online course on it, but you got to figure out what your long term
on line and off line learning goals are. Next, you get to figure out what your short
term goals are when it comes to learning. What is it you want to learn right away?
I always have short term goals of what I've learned because I'm always making a
new online course. So I'm trying to learn as much as possible for that particular
subject. That means reading short e-books, long paper books on the subject. What
are your short term goals that you want to learn? It might be learning a language
that you just need to know because you're going on a vacation one time in a country
that speaks that language. You need to have short term goals. The next element,
you've got to figure out what are your core daily habits that are going to support
your lifelong learning? These are crucial for me. It's things like I read an e-book
every single day. I also listen to an audio book every single day. I also read all or
part of a paper book every single day. And I watch a how to instructional video
every single day. So those are core things that I do every single day to help me learn.
Next, you got to think about what are the non core things you do to learn to
constantly get your mind stimulated. For me, it's doing things like going to
museums. I don't go to a museum every day, but every time I travel, which in the
past has been very frequent, I always look for the best museums in a city where I'm
going. I happen to live right outside New York City. So quite often when I take my
family into the city, we go to Metropolitan Museum of Art, Modern Museum of Art.
There's so many wonderful museums where I live. You don't have to go to
museums. That's simply one non core habit I have. That supports my life long
learning goals. The final element, tiny micro habits, tiny things you do 10, 20
seconds or less on a daily basis. For me, I learn one new word a day. It's not that I
want to dazzle you with a larger vocabulary, but it sends a signal to my brain. Hey,
Brain, you're still learning. You're still learning new concepts. I just pull up an app,
read the word the definition, typically 10 seconds or less. That is my micro habit to
support this particular series of goals. What are yours? Use the checklist below. Fill
it out.
33.Your 7 Levels of Goals for Creativity and Creation
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If you've ever seen a child creating a painting that they're excited about, you know
that expression. It's pure joy. You need to have your philosophy of creation in the
world. There is a philosophy that says creators are a select breed of people. Most
people are not. Most people are uncreated. You either have it or you don't. You're
bored with it or you're not. You're either Beethoven at age three composing or you
should never bother to compose. That's one particular vision of creativity that a
lucky few are anointed genetically or at birth or some other way. Lucky stars to be
created. Most people simply aren't. That's one vision of creativity. The fixed
mindset on creativity. There's another vision of creativity that says all human
beings are creative. NOT is going to create a best selling novel that is destined to
be taught in schools for the next hundred years. But everyone can create
something. All human beings who can think can mix and match two previously
disconnected ideas or things together and make something new. That's the essence
of creativity. That could be your philosophy. That is the philosophy I have. Next is
your vision for yourself. If you tell yourself I'm not creative. You are correct, that
will, in fact, be how you live your life. You won't be created if you tell yourself you
are created. Now, this is true in general of every sphere we're talking about of life.
If you have a negative, constrained vision of yourself, it will become reality. But the
opposite is true, too. If you have an open vision of yourself, an open mind set, if
your mind set about yourself is that
I am creative.
I'm a creative force.
I have great ideas.
I create new ideas on a daily basis.
That can be your vision for yourself.
It's certainly the vision I have for me. And I hope you have for yourself, too.
I want to stress you have to come up with your own goals for life. You can't just
agree with me and I can't tell you what your goals should be for life, but I can give
you a framework that I think will help you. And that's what this is all about. Next,
you need to have a long term goal. You need to have a series of long term goals
when it comes to your. Creation, your creativity, is it to create a Web site that has
10 million views a month? Is it to create an app seen by millions and used by
millions around the world? Is it to create a best selling novel? Is it to create a work
of art that hangs in a major use it. What is it you want to create? What are your
long term goals? I want to reach more students online with personal development
than any one of the world. That's part of my goal. What are your creative long term
goals next? What are your short term goals? I have short term creative goals. I write
a poem every day. I do a drawing every single day. A very specific short term goals
because of constantly trying to get things going. The most important short term
goal I have is I write 500 words per day on habits and goals. And that is my creative
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engine from those writings. I can create books, online courses, blog post
newsletters, everything else. That is my creative engine. First thing in the morning,
I don't stop writing a time dictated five hundred words. So those are the short term
goals. Next, your daily core activities. For me, it is things like I take a picture every
day, so I mentioned I write a poem every day. I write one aphorism a day, just a
simple quote, something that sums up a philosophy that. It helps encapsulate what
I'm thinking about that day. It only takes it less than a minute. It doesn't take a long
time. But these are daily core activities that really support my creative goals, get
that creative muscle stronger and stronger every day. Next, there are the non core
habits that I try to do. I don't necessarily do them every single day. But these are
things like. Reading novels, I'm not someone who reads novels every single day. But
I know that if you only read non-fiction, that is that can be narrowing. I do things
like actively watch standup comedy to get ideas for jokes. Because I create a joke
every single day. So these are some of the non core things. I don't have to watch a
stand up comedian every day, but I try to be at least a couple of times a week
because it stimulates that creativity. And finally, there are the short, brief micro
habits that support creativity. So being do 10 seconds, 20 seconds or less. For me,
it's as simple as I read one joke a day on that gives me a little chuckle. Gets the
creative juices flowing and makes me feel good. So that's my micro habit.
Supporting the creative sphere. What is your vision for creativity in your life?
What are your goals? Use the checklist below.
7 Levels of Goals for Each Habit Sphere
1. Philosophy of the good life for each sphere
2. Determine what your self-identity is as it relates to this vision
3. Long term goals for that sphere
4. Short term goals for that sphere
5. Core daily habits for these goals
6. Nice, non-core habits for these goals
7. Micro 60 second habits (including 10 second affirmations on
goals)
34:Your 7 Levels of Goals for Leisure
The next sphere is, Lesia, what is your philosophy about Lesia? Certainly there are
some people who believe that life is too short. Don't be frivolous. Focus on work,
make money, household chores. There's no time for leisure. Everyone comes from
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different circumstances. You have to decide what your philosophy is. Another
philosophy is that human beings deserve leisure time, that you can't work all the
time, that to be a well-rounded individual who really has a meaningful life. You
need to have some time for pure Lesia. That is a particular philosophy. Next, you
have to figure out what is your position in this? What's your role going to be? How
do you have an identity in this whole realm of leisure? If, for example, you view
yourself as someone who works hard and you should play hard, then you need
to have a clear cut concept for that. Are you someone who deserves leisure time,
not just at the end of 40 years of working when you're 65? Not just for one or two
weeks in the summer when you get a vacation and maybe not even just the
weekends. But are you someone who deserves to have leisure as a part of your
life? So that's what you've got to determine. What is your role going to be in this
whole particular realm? Next, you've got to look at your long term goals. The
problem here for so many people is they have no goals. Their goal is, well, I've got
free time. Let me watch TV and watch whatever Netflix wants me to watch.
That's not a goal. That's you being reactive. You got to figure out what your long
term goals are. If you want to get to be a three point five level tennis player, that
can be a specific goal you have. You might have a goal of becoming a scratch golfer.
You might want to these combined with your creative goals, too. It could be how
you paint what you do in your leisure time. What you do for creativity can't overlap,
obviously. So you need to have some highly specific goals for leisure. It could be
traveling to all seven continents of the world or six continents. No offense to
Antarctica. So what are your long term goals, short term goals? Your short term
goals could be? I would like my family to socialize with another family at least once
a week and to do something like go to the beach or have a picnic or all go on a
biking trip. Specific short term goals for enjoying Leesha. You need to have these
next. You need to think about your core daily activities. What do you do on a daily
basis? For me, it's playing a game. Quite often I do it with my daughter. It's a simple
word game on an app where you have all the letters scattered about. You have to
figure out where the words are there now. Sometimes it only takes one minute.
Sometimes it could take five minutes. But it's a little game stimulates the mind and
it's something purely for play. And I get to do it with my daughter, too. So that's a
core daily. Have I do that every single day. Next you've got to think about nine core
habits, things you do, but not on a daily basis. It could be jumping rope, some
energy. I play tennis. That's something I do for my physical sphere of life. But it's
also something I do for leisure. It could be going horseback riding. I don't
particularly like horseback riding. But I forget every five years about how much I
dislike it and I try it again. But you need to have some non core habits you do to
support your overall lesia goals. And then finally, you need some tiny, tiny micro
habits, teeny tiny habits you do on a daily basis that support this goal. I we get back
to I just read a joke a day. It's part of the creativity one, but it's also a part of my
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lesia. I enjoy it and it only takes about five seconds a day reading a simple joke from
an app. It's something I do for fun. What is your vision? What are your goals for
leisure in your life? Fill it out. Using the chart below.
7 Levels of Goals for Each Habit Sphere
1. Philosophy of the good life for each
sphere
2. Determine what your self-identity is as
it relates to this vision
3. Long term goals for that sphere
4. Short term goals for that sphere
5. Core daily habits for these goals
6. Nice, non-core habits for these goals
7. Micro 60 second habits (including 10
second affirmations on goals)
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35:Your 7 Levels of Goals for Wealth
And finally, well, as I mentioned, I have this last because I think this one often takes
care of itself. If you've really thought through carefully all of your other goals for
the seven spheres of life, but you do need to have a philosophy of what is a good
life when it comes to your wealth, your finances. Can you may be someone who
says I have to become a billionaire or I will see that as a failure. You're only really
successful if you're a billionaire. I think that that's somewhat limiting. But you get
to come up with your philosophy. How much wealth and how much stuff that you
can buy is needed in order for you to have a good life. The next year, you're going
to figure out what is your identity? Where do you see yourself? Do you see yourself
as someone as well? I'm always going to be a part of the lower classes. I'm never
going to make money. I've never been good at money. I don't handle money well.
Is that your identity when it comes to wealth? If so, it's going to become true. You
tell yourself you're no good with money. You don't deserve money. You don't have
the right credentials to ask for this amount of money. Then you won't make much
money that I guarantee you.Or you could have the vision that says you deserve to
make money, you can make money, you can and will have all the wealth you need
to accomplish what you want. Now, I'm not talking about just blindly law of
attraction. I'm visualizing a giant mansion. So it'll be here in two years. I'm not
talking about anything quite that simplistic, but you do need to have a specific
vision for yourself where you want to be and where you can be in the whole field
of wealth and finance. If you view yourself as someone who can make money, can
make all the money you need to live the life you want to lead, it's going to make it
a lot easier to get there. So that's the second level you really have to focus on is
your specific identity that fits in with your philosophy of wealth and finances .Next,
you've got to come up with your long term goals for your finances. Now, I don't
think you have to say my net worth must be nineteen point two million or seventy
two point three. But I don't think you have to be that precise, although some people
find it extremely helpful to visualize an exact amount in their net worth statement,
their financial statement or their bank balance. But you've got to figure out what
your long term goals are. If you aspire to own the home of your dreams, to have
zero debt, to fully fund retirement, especially if it's by a certain age, then write it
down, make it really concrete, as you should with all of these things. Write down
your specific long term goals, and it may be to have a million in cash and
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investments or 10 million dollars in your retirement fund and a house paid off. The
cars of your dream. You may be someone who thinks that horribly tacky and gauche
that I even mentioned that. And you would like your net worth to be five thousand
dollars because you want to give away everything you have to people in your
community. There's nothing wrong with that either. But you need to have specific
long term goals. Next, you need short term goals. It could be as simple as I want to
pay off all my bills and all my credit card balances every single month. That's a
perfectly legitimate short term goal. Short term goal could be. I want to pay off my
house 10 years earlier and have no mortgage. What are your short term goals? The
fifth level. What are your core daily habits to help support your goals? For me, it's
making online courses every single day because they make me money. And if I'm
not recording videos every day, I'm at least writing 500 words or more of content
that is turned into courses. So it's a constant engine financial engine running for
me. Plus, I have hundreds of courses for sale every day. So when I wake up her feet,
hey, there's more money that's come in every single day. That is my core habit.
Making money everyday by making courses and selling courses every day. Now,
what are the nice habits to have? But there are non core. What do you do? But not
necessarily on a daily basis. It could be that you have a side. You're a sight maybe
once a month. You drive for Uber, maybe once a month. You cut somebodies here,
you could have something where you make money or you save money or where
you specifically walk instead of take mass transit and save money. There are a lot
of things you could do to help with financial goals. That is the next level. And finally,
what are the micro habits? You have something you could do, 10, 20, 30, maybe up
to 60 seconds that will help you reach your goals. It could be as simple as an
affirmation. I read an affirmation and I hear it in my own voice on myself. You speak
program that just says, T.J., you have all the wealth and abundance you ever need.
And a couple of other sentences that follow up on that. It's simple. It's clear. Takes
five seconds, but it helps support my vision and all of my goals. What are your
financial goals? Use the checklist below and fill it out for yourself.
7 Levels of Goals for Each Habit Sphere
1. Philosophy of the good life for each sphere
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2. Determine what your self-identity is as it
relates to this vision
3. Long term goals for that sphere
4. Short term goals for that sphere
5. Core daily habits for these goals
6. Nice, non-core habits for these goals
7. Micro 60 second habits (including 10 second
affirmations on goals)
CHAPTER 5: Turning your goals into Reality.
36: You Must Program Your Goals Into Your Brain with
Constant Media Messaging
I hope you've done the work along the way and filled out the charts so that you
know exactly what your goals are at every level for all seven spheres, because
you're going to have to program your brain to really accept these. It's not enough
to think about it. Not enough to write it down. Some love to look at it. We've got
to figure out together how to program these goals in your brain. Because as I
mentioned earlier, in this course, your brain is receiving programming every single
day by other outside forces. Google. Facebook. Netflix. YouTube. Instagram.
McDonald's. Coca-Cola. The Cheesecake Factory. All of these organizations are
sending you messages every single day to give you their goals. And you're going to
have to fight. You're really going to have to fight to figure out who gets control over
your brain, who gets control of your mind, and who gets control over your life and
your life's goals. I wanted to be you. The fact that you're here with me now, you're
this very it is a very good sign. But if you stop right now, you really haven't made
much progress. We've now got to spend more time figuring out how to really take
what you want, not what I said, but what you want for your goals and program
them into your brain.
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37. The Most Powerful Form of Human Behavior Change is
Advertising, Not Books
If you have goals for yourself, you want to influence yourself, to take the actions
you need to make those goals come alive or everyone else in the world has goals
for you. We've already discussed this, but let's look at some other characters. I
mean, there are a lot of personal development experts who have goals for you.
How do they try to convince you through courses like this? Through books, through
workshops, through seminars. And I've been through all of those. I'm sure you have
to at some level. And they have some level of efficacy. There is medicine. There's
psychiatric drugs for people who want to change certain behavior. There are laws,
there are punishments to guide behavior. But when I look around at all the different
types of influence in the world, I've looked at things like hypnosis, which does have
some impact. I've looked at things like books and public service announcements
and things like going to seminars and fire walks. There's so many different ways you
can influence people's behavior. But what I noticed is that the people who are really
in the business of changing behavior, who get rewarded the most for changing
behavior, they don't use any of that. They don't use books. They don't use
workshops. They don't use seminars. They don't use affirmations very much either.
What the people do who really have to influence behavior is they use advertising
rates and they use digital messaging. Think about Coca-Cola, the world. Why is it so
powerful? Well, it has advertised and marketed its brand since the day you were
born. Until the day you will die. You're inundated with commercials, banners, logos,
icons, billboards. You're constantly inundated. The result is someone says, we've
got soft drinks today. What do you want? A Coke, a Sprite, a Fanta. If you're like a
lot of people, you'll say Coke because the advertising works. We all like to think
we're above advertising and somehow it doesn't influence us, and yet it does.
Advertising is the most studied mode of influence in the history of the world. Major
corporations spend money on advertising because it works. And depending on how
you count it, between half a trillion to more than a trillion dollars a year is spent on
advertising worldwide. And if you look at it more broadly, look at all the messages
Amazon sends you in emails and Netflix and how you like this movie like this one.
Those are forms of advertising as well. Direct communication. Direct marketing. So
when I look at people who are really successful at changing behavior, I look at those
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folks. It's true Facebook doesn't spend a lot of time on traditional TV ads, but
they've got you. They are advertising in the sense of you pick up your phone
notification. Oh, your friend liked your post. That's a type of electronic digital push
communication. This is what works. This is how behavior was changed. It wasn't
that long ago where the average person spent zero minutes a day on social media
because it didn't exist. Now it's often two hours, three or four hours a day. The
social media companies are influential. McDonald's, Coca-Cola, Sara Lee, bakeries,
all of these companies that can get us to consume massive amounts of sugar,
carbohydrates, processed food with fat and salt larded in ruining our health are
quite effective because of constant non stop advertising. If you look at a big
company like Procter and Gamble, Consumer Goods Product Company, and you ask
them how many times do we need to advertise in order to make sure a customer
buys your soap at one time? Three times, seven times? I think the head of
marketing and advertising would say, how about forever? How about them just
watching our ads forever? Forever is pretty good. And that's the problem with just
reading a book once or even going through this course once. It's a one time, one
off thing, you forget about it when it comes to advertising by major corporations
or digital messaging from major social media companies that Googles the Netflix,
the face books of the world. It's that they can do it repetitively again and again and
again every day for ever. That's the power. Now we know that we can't easily
change it unless we disconnect and become a hermit. Go live in a cave. I'm not
suggesting that. But we can. If we can't beat them, join them. That's what I'm
recommending with my whole selfie speak programming. You are essentially
joining the Facebook and the Netflix and the Amazons of the world in their own
business. We're gonna create our own ads in the simplest way possible. An audio
ad just talking to ourselves. It works for radio. It works for podcast. It can work for
you. So that's what we have to focus on. Together.
CHAPTER 6: Self Speak Programming to you help set a
goal
38. Here is How Selfie Speak Programming Will Help You
Set and Reach Your Goals
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OK, this section, I'm really going to go into tremendous depth on Southy speak
programming, how it can work for you. Exactly how you do it and how this will
support your goals, not only helping you create your goals, but achieve your goals
and how to integrate your goals into every sphere of life and how you can come up
with a specific habits to support your goals. So pay attention. This is the part of the
course that really has the most meat is going to help you the most if you follow it
through all the way. So please don't just listen to this. Don't just watch this. Use
what we go through here and then create your own self speak program to clearly
identify your goals in life and the habits you need to make your goals come alive.
I'm going to share with you it's personal stuff and I'm going to share with you my
own self speak programming. Good luck. I think you'll enjoy this.
39. Your Turn to Create a Selfie Speak Program for Your
Life's Goals
Now it's your turn. I want you to pull out your cell phone. Hit the memo, record the
audio record of whatever app is on your phone that allows you to record your voice.
And I want you to create your entire selfie speak program that lays out for you your
goals for your life, all the goals you have for your seven spheres. Just talk to
yourself. Don't worry about time. It might take you two minutes. Might take it.
Twenty two minutes. Does it matter? Don't worry about time. Don't worry about
editing. Just talk to yourself and remind yourself in a friendly tone of voice exactly
how you want your life to be, what you want your goals to be, what you want, your
habits to be recorded. Please do that now, because if you then listen to this every
day forever or until you make a change, it is going to have the most profound
impact on your life that you have ever experienced.
40. Change, Edit and Revise Your SSP As Often or As Little
As You Want
By the way, stuff happens, life happens. Our priorities change. The goals you have
at 20 may be different from the goals. You have a 30 or 40 or 50. The goals you
have today may be different than the goals you have next week. That's OK. I change
my goals and my habits frequently. Now I do it a couple of ways. I'll pull up my
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selfie, speak audio and I just want to add something. Just the other day I said, OK,
T.J., if you're not right at one hundred and seventy five pounds, then you are not
going to eat dessert today. And I will put that down and I just spoke and do it 10
seconds at the end to myself because I just added so the net to redo the whole
thing. I just hit edit one to the end of it, spoke, recorded it for ten seconds. It
stopped and it just made it 10 seconds longer. So I typically will make little changes
like this. Things they add on every couple of weeks I'll add something and then
every three to six months I'll redo the whole thing and it only takes fifteen minutes,
16 minutes. Maybe it's not time consuming. It's so much less time consuming than
reading a script or reading affirmations out loud every day or rereading a book
every day because you can do it anywhere, anytime, and you can do it while you're
doing other things like commuting on a bus, going for a walk or reading the morning
newspaper. Newspapers used to be a thing I met online.
CHAPTER 7: Your own voice is the perfect tool for building
habits.
41. Your Own Voice Is the Perfect Tool For Building Your
Habits
Why do I talk about audio? Specifically selfie speak? Programming audio, because
there are a lot of different ways you can try to influence your brain. You can try to
manufacture posters and put them around your house. But that's awkward. It looks
weird if other people are looking at it. You've got to go to an art store and buy
posters .You could spend a lot of money on billboards outside your house, too, I
guess. That takes a lot of money. You can write a whole book and read your own
book every day. Very time consuming. Let's face it, nobody's going to do that.But
all of you is different. It's just talking. And even though these days most of us are
used to texting all day long, it's still easier to talk, especially to a cell phone than it
is to write whole coherent paragraphs and thoughts about our feelings. So that's
why I like audio creating audio. So it's just so flexible. You can be listening to an
audio while you're driving. Because this is not meditation, folks. This is not
hypnosis. You can be listening to an audio while you're on a subway, while you're
on a plane, while you're on a bus, while you were on a walk. You can listen to audio.
It's so flexible because you can be doing other things. You don't have to use your
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eyes. You don't have to stare at it. It can at some level be background noise. But
remember repeated. And the key here is repeated exposure to sounds that you can
still hear. Does have an impact. Why else would major corporations have spent so
many billions of dollars over numerous decades on radio ads all over the world?
They know that if you're listening to the radio, you might be driving. You might be
mowing your lawn. You might be on a bicycle. You're listening to radio. They get
you with ads. They understand you're not going to hear an ad once and instantly
go out, buy a Chrysler or go out by race. Aroney. They understand it's a cumulative
effect. Well, I don't see any easy way for you or me to create TV ads for ourselves
to program our brains. I don't see any easy way of creating billboards or writing
whole books that we're going to read every day. Audio is different. It's simple. It's
flexible. It costs nothing. If you have a smartphone, you don't even have to have a
regular Internet connection. You don't have to have a High-Speed Internet
connection. f you just have any kind of smartphone, you'll have an audio recording
function or you can download one for free from an app store. That's the beauty of
audio. It's also flexible. Every so often I update my own selfie, speak audio that I
listen to every day and I'll just add things on. At the end. And it may be something
as simple as T.J., you love lettuce and salad, that is always your first choice before
eating any meal, eat a salad, something short, just 10 seconds that maybe I forgot
when I did the main section of my audio on my health and diet. I mean, I added at
the end, it's like a computer programmer changing a line of code. You're trying to
program your brain and not trying to turn you into a machine and destroy your
individual character and what makes you human. But it is a useful metaphor. It is a
useful way of thinking about how we can change our behavior for the better and
how we can control our behavior. So that's the beauty of audio. We know through
repetition it works with other view. That's why most religions don't ask you to read
a book of their founder or written by their founders. Once they ask you to read the
book every day forever. You finish it. Start back at the beginning. Why do religions
do that? Because they know it's a lot more powerful. It's going to have a lot more
impact if you spend some time with your brain. Even if it's just five minutes a day
reading that particular book, even if you've read that chapter hundreds of times
before, the power is in the repetition. That is the power of the selfie speak. Audio.
If you tell yourself you are a physically fit person and an active person and that you
always take stair sand not the escalator or the elevator, you tell yourself you prefer
to stand rather than sit when given the option. If you tell yourself you're going to
park the furthest space away when going to the grocery store. So you have further
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to walk to get more steps. And if you tell yourself these things every single day,
guess what? It will start to become a part of your identity. You will start to program
yourself. Now, I'm not trying to tell you you can convince yourself to never eat
another piece of chocolate or that you're going to hate all sweets. It's not that
simple. But certainly you can coach yourself, guide yourself, give yourself direction
on fundamental things that you have to do on a daily basis. So that you feel more
likely that you're going to do them so that you feel obligated to do. I tell myself in
my audio every day, T.J., you read one new book every day. Now, they're not
necessarily war and peace. They're not always the longest book. They're not always
the best book. But I read one book every single day and I try to mix it up. An
occasional classic, also a self-help, something from a best seller list. I read a lot of
them on a Kindle, but I do still read on paper, too. So if I have a choice and it's after
dinner time. I haven't yet read my daughter or her bedtime story and I haven't
finished a book. And I've got an option. Here's Netflix. Here's a movie. Here's
YouTube. Here's one of my favorite late night comics in a five minute video clip. I
like to watch those, but I haven't finished the book yet. Today I feel this pull to read
the book first so I could finish it. It's another way of checking it box. Now, should
every second of your life be about checking boxes? No. I don't read books to tell
other people. Oh, I'm so smart, I read books. All right, I want a better than you
watch TV all day. I'm so good. That's not why I'm reading a book every day. I'm
reading a book every day because there are more interesting ideas in the books
than what I'm going to find in a typical TV show or Netflix movie. I still consume the
others as well, but by reading new books every day, it's interesting for me. I learned
more. I feel like I developed my brain more. And I've got a larger database of ideas
to use and mix and combine for my own creations. So that's why it's critically
important to have that specific audio telling me. T.J., read a book every day. So
we're gonna to spend more time. I realize I might not have convinced you yet.
I'm not sure I've seen you post your audio yet or a video with your audio component
yet in this course. That's OK. I'm convinced yet. I'm going to keep working on it. But
audio is powerful. It's cheap. It's easy. It's fast. You can make quick edits. You can
add things. You can take it out. You don't have to know anything about technology.
Just touch and tap. That's what makes it. I believe, the most effective tool for
personal transformation, for personal development, and for really building a new
specific habits that will make you a better person and will make you a more
creative
person to lead a more fulfilling life
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42. Passive Brainwashing for You.
Another advantage of listening to selfie speak. Audio programming, what you
created for yourself is you can be tired. Listen to it. It still has some effect. You can
be flustered. You can be a little stressed. You can be hung over from last night. If
you had too much fun. But by listening to it every single day, you just go a little
deeper. You build another groove in your brain. Another impression I get, this is
the power of Coca-Cola. You ask most people, what do you want to drink? We only
have beer and soft drinks. And you don't drink beer. You're not even old enough to
drink beer. What are most people in the world say? Coke or Coca-Cola or some
version of Coke. Why do we say that? It's because we've been bombarded with ad
after cat after cat after ad radio ads, TV ads, billboards, digital ads since the
moment we were born. Is Coca-Cola, a stupid company, likes to just waste money
and gives money away to TV networks and radio stations out of the goodness of
their heart? I don't think so. They're doing it because it works. Again, you and I
don't have the resources to create our own billboards, to create fancy interactive
campaigns, to flash back in our face. But audio we can do. We can create radio ads
for ourself. We can create a podcast for ourselves. That may be a way of thinking
of it if that helps you. A podcast just for you. A Day in the Life of Me. And do your
podcast as if almost you were a news anchor talking about your day and what goes
through in all the good things that are going to happen. All the wonderful habits
you exhibit on a daily basis. If that helps you try that approach. Couple of things to
keep in mind. I'm not talking about subliminal audio where it's so low you can't.
There really isn't any evidence. Subliminal advertising, subliminal audio works.
Forgive me if that offends you. I'm not talking about hypnosis. I'm not against
hypnosis. I've seen a lot of evidence that it can be very helpful to people. 've
dabbled in self hypnosis myself. But that's not what I'm talking about. The challenge
with hypnosis is you do need to close your eyes. You do need to set aside a specific
amount of time where you can't do anything. And that may be really effective short
term or a few sessions to help you stop smoking or something. But I don't know
anyone or very few people are going to do self hypnosis, closed their eyes and
actually go into a hypnotic state on a daily basis for half an hour. But audio is
different. You don't have to be hypnotized. You can be driving and listening to it
rather than listening to the radio or your favorite podcast from your cell phone in
your car or your favorite Amazon music channel. You can be listening to your own
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podcast about you. Your own selfie speak. Audio programming where you tell
yourself the kind of person you want to be. Where you tell yourself the daily goals
you want. If you are concerned about your weight, there's nothing wrong with
telling yourself you're going to weight yourself every day. Drink water as soon as
you get up and only drink water at every meal, if that's what you decide. And I
understand there's some health experts who say I don't weigh yourself every day.
You get to decide not me, not some other health guru. I can tell you, though, if you
listen to an audio every single day telling yourself that you weigh yourself every
single day and that you wake up and you start drinking water and you're going to
drink water with every meal. There's an excellent chance you are more likely to, in
fact, weigh yourself every day and drink water all day than if you didn't do that.
Now, the caveat here. So many motivational speakers, self-help gurus, personal
development, so-called experts throw a lot of things at you and they don't really
have proof. They say, well, there's research or they'll use terms like, you know,
frequency of the food and the energy level and the vibrations. And we're pulling
out toxins and gas. You've got to avoid foods that are this color and you can only
eat foods that are or there's a lot of garbage put out there by people claiming to
want to help you. I want you to be skeptical of that. And I want you to be skeptical
of me. What is my evidence for audio working? I would say the evidence is basic
reason. When you look at the last 90 or so years around the world, virtually every
major corporation and a lot of small ones, and for that matter, governments to
have spent collectively trillions of dollars on advertising. A huge chunk of that has
historically go and gone to audio in the form of radio ads. These days, increasingly
large budgets are going to advertise on podcasts, the ads in podcast. If you want to
tell me that there's no justification, there's no evidence. That hearing repeated
messages in a persuasive way and audio doesn't work. You have to make the case
that all of these corporations all over the world have consistently just thrown away
trillions of dollars. To me, that defies reason. So that is my reason and justification
to you as to why creating ads for yourself in an audio format is highly effective.
43. Don't Over-complicate this Make the Simplest Audio
Production Ever
Later on in this course, I'm going to give you a few more technical details about
how to make a more effective selfie speak audio. But let's not over complicated.
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We're not making an ad for the Super Bowl. We're not making a Grammy Award.
Music that we're hoping wins awards and is heard by billions of people. We're
talking about is you pull up your cell phone and you go to the utilities. Least that's
where it is in mine. I go to voice memos. There is a red button. You may have a
different app. And I just hit record, T.J.. You are going to make something creative
every single day for four hours. You're going to block out your time with deep work.
That means you're going to turn your cell phone off. No email. You're going to block
your computers. You're not going to be able to check Internet news. You are just
going to create new online courses because you are an online course creator. That's
30 seconds. Is it perfect? No. And then I can hit play and make if I listen to this every
day. It will in fact increase the odds. That I do creep every day for four hours and
make my creations come alive. So let's not overcomplicate it, T.J., I don't like the
sound of my own voice. Nobody cares about the sound of your voice. If you want
to go higher. James Earl Jones or a famous voice over artists. Be my guest. But
you're going to run out of money quickly because you need to be changing these
frequently as things in your life change. So I don't recommend you have someone
else do it. Plus, this is personal. This is just for you. There may be things in here you
want to say that you don't want anyone else to hear. That's perfectly fine. So don't
worry about your voice. Here's the thing. You'll get used to your voice hearing it
every day. Here's a little secret. Nobody likes the sound of their own voice. The first
time they hear it or the second time or third time, perhaps a while, your voice is
like any other voice. Maybe your voice isn't so good that people are going to pay
you millions of dollars to do voice over commercials for movies. My voice isn't that
good. But your voice probably isn't so bad that cats and dogs run away screaming
when they hear you speak. People are jumping out of windows to avoid. It's
probably not that bad either. Your voice is probably like most people's voices.
It's just a voice. It serves a purpose. It helps you communicate. So get over it. I'm
not asking you to give a speech in front of 10000 people. That makes me nervous.
I understand. I've got a solution for that. But that's later. I'm not asking you to get
on the loudspeaker at a football game and sing the national anthem or talk to
people and give a speech at the end of the Super Bowl. I understand that's nerve
wracking. This is just talking to your phone and no one's even listening to you on
the other end. It's just going to be for you to listen to and do what I do. I listen on
headphones. I don't just listen on it. Anyone can listen in. I'm going to listen on
headphones every once in a while. If my headphones battery's down or I forgot a
headset, I'm on a train. OK, maybe I'll do this to listen to the audio. It's really just
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for me. You're Sophie speak. Audio is just for you. So stop coming up with excuses.
Stop just watching video of me. It's time to start creating these audio that we tell
you right now. If you're not making audios. And all you're doing is watching me.
Kind of a waste of time. You might as well be watching Netflix because I guarantee
you there's a lot more entertaining video and Netflix than in my course, even
though I tried to mix it up and have fun. The value of this course doesn't come from
me. It only comes from you taking some version of what I say and creating your
own version of it in an audio format that you can listen to every day. So you don't
have to make an hour tape. You make a mistake. Don't worry about it to start off
with something simple. Thirty seconds about how you want to do something
differently in life. Now, I've done it both ways before. I've had eight, 10 different
audios and I just pick which ones I want in the order. Now, what I do is I'm even
lazier. I just made all of my audios exactly as I wanted in one take. It's less than an
hour that way. What I want to start my morning. All I have to do is push one button
play. I don't have to push around or anything. But you can try experimenting with
short audios to help get you focused on different aspects of your life. You can do
one just on health, one just on sleep, one on your reading habits. You get to pick.
Not be you.
CHAPTER:8 Simple Tech Steps in Creating your self speak
programming.
44. No Problem If You Hate Technology
Let's talk a little about the technical side of making your own selfie speak
programming audios, you might be tempted to really be first class, get so excited.
Thank you. I want to make the greatest audios ever and get a whole sound system.
Digital recording system set up a sound studio. Sounds great. Here's the problem.
Once you start down that road of trying to be a high end audio recording studio, it
might never end. There's always one extra piece, one extra gizmo, one extra piece
of software. I would highly recommend keep it simple. Just use a cell phone. That's
what I do. And I have a studio. Use a cell phone. I just go to the voice memo thing
that comes in as a default app on the phone. There's plenty of other apps that
record audio. There's nothing specific to that. I recommend the phone because you
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can do it anywhere. And it's digital quality, as long as you don't have loud noise
around you. And as loud as you, as long as you're not on the street, lot of dogs
barking. Try to avoid that, but just try to find a quiet room and then get just a couple
of inches away from your phone. That's generally how it's going to sound the best.
Fewer distractions. Talk right in to the receiver, the microphone in your phone, and
just talk like you're talking to one person. Don't talk like that. No, I'm doing this.
And remember how people used to be the first time they let their voicemail
message 20 years ago. You just want to sound like you're talking to one person.
Don't worry about making it perfect. You have us at arms. Don't waste time trying
to edit it out just if it's too many. Hit, delete and start over. This is going to be your
best friend. Remember, you're not creating an audio that you're selling to the
world, you're not creating an audio that you're putting on I tunes and expecting
people to pay good money for it. This is just for you. So if you cough or hiccup or
say that's OK, it's the message that counts. It's that it's in your own voice. That's
what counts.
45. Simple Solutions to Common Problems When Making
Your Audios
Let's go over a couple of common problems that people face when they record
themselves the first time. If you're nervous, you might be speaking too quickly. If
you speak too quickly. You're gonna make yourself monotone and it's going to be
irritating to listen to it. So don't speak too quickly. Also, if you're nervous, chances
are you might speak so softly that you sound tentative and like you're uncertain,
try to speak at full volume and use the full range of your voice. Don't try to be
monotone and serious and like an old time newscaster. No, be nervous. Big up. You
hold up. Use the full range of your voice and that will make you come across much
more comfortable and relaxed. Don't try to get it perfect the same time. Now,
that's why I've been asking you to record throughout this whole course. So you get
used to hearing yourself. Listen to it. Let me tell you right now, if you don't like the
sound of your own voice, you're in good company. Nobody likes the sound of their
own voice. It's because you're used to hearing it through the bones in your skull all
day long. You're used to hearing it distorted. So when you hear your voice coming
out through your phone, through a headset or through the speaker on your phone,
you're hearing it in a way that's much less distorted than usual. So it sounds weird
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to you. What doesn't sound weird to anyone else? I'm sure your voice is perfectly
fine. But remember, no one else has to hear this. This is just for you. So don't go
out and hire a professional voice over. Announcer To do this would be a complete
waste of money. And don't just listen to the audios I've created. There they are,
just as a template for you. It's just gonna be so much more powerful if you create
these audio programmings just for you in your own voice.
46. Nobody Likes the Sound of their Own Voice
OK, I hear you don't like the sound of your own voice. Let me give you a couple
more tips for starters. Stand up when you're doing this. You can breathe deeper.
You can breathe more fully. You can gesture with one hand that will make your
voice sound more energetic. The biggest problem most people have is tightening
their whole body. Your body tightens up, your vocal cords tighten up. That's when
your energy level goes down. Your volume goes down. And you sound monotone,
bored and boring. So here's what I want you to do. It sounds silly, but it solves most
people's problems. I want you to do a version where you speak just 30 seconds or
so where you're encouraging yourself in some aspect of programming your life. And
I want you to overdo it. I want you to be louder than normal. More energetic, more
like an infomercial guru. Just overdo it. Listen to it. You might actually like it. It may
sound weird or feel weird when you're doing it, but it might sound great. And if it's
too much, it's very easy to bring it down a little. If you start off to low energy, low
key, flat monotone, then it's hard to bring it back up. So let's overcorrect going too
far on the high end. Listen to it. If you still don't like it. Bring it down a little and
you'll get closer to a range that will make you feel comfortable. Also realize it
doesn't have to be perfect. I made a stumble 10 seconds ago. Did it bother you?
I just kept going. Chances are you wouldn't remember that a minute from now if I
hadn't mentioned it, so don't worry about being perfect. Just focus on your ideas
with enthusiasm. Focus on what you really want to do with your life. Don't worry
about making it perfect.
47. Improving Every Single Selfie Speak Audio
Here's the exercise I have for you, pull out your phone. I want you recorded audio
only 30 seconds long. Listen to that. I want you to focus on just one thing. You want
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to improve and do it again right away. I want you to do this 10 times each time.
Focus on just one thing. If you want to vary your speed, more focus just on that. If
you want to pause after a major point, focus just on that. If you want to have more
volume, do one just on that. The whole key is not trying to fix 10 things at once you
don't like. It's on focusing one thing at a time. A lot of people don't have the
discipline to do this. Doesn't take talent. It just takes focus. But if you do this 10
times in a row, I guarantee you will like the tenth one a lot better than the first one.
And you will see improvement. You'll hear improvement.
CHAPTER 9: You Now have the Power of Control your own
habits.
48. This Is How Long You Should Use Selfie Speak
Programming
So, T.J., this whole SSP Southy speak programming sounds interesting. How long
do I have to do it? That's a question I get. Here's the answer I would throw out to
you forever. Why do I say forever? Well, ask yourself when anyone else is trying to
influence you. When do they stop? Does McDonald's stop advertising to you, even
though you've heard advertising from them the last 10, 15, 20, 30 years? Or if
you're my age. The last 50, five plus years. Everyone else trying to influence you is
going after you every single day. Kentucky Fried Chicken doesn't say, well, we
communicated with Sanjay or Jane last year for two months. Let's never spend
money advertising to that person again. Now they're hitting you up every day. Ads
on social media, news sites, billboards, TV ads, radio ads, everyone else in the world
is trying to influence you, to market to you, to brainwash you, to create new habits
in you every single day. The rest of your life. So I think the answer is you've got to
play some selfie, speak audio that you designed for yourself everyday for the rest
of your life. Now, the beauty of it is you just push one button and listen to it again.
You can be driving. You can be in a bus. You could be on a walk. It's only one button.
You're already doing that. Now, turning on podcast or listening to I tunes or the
radio, you can, of course, change your Southy speak programming over time.
Maybe one goal is so obvious now, you don't have to think about it. Maybe you use
this to start flossing every day because you hadn't been a diligent philosopher. Now
you're doing it and it just would never occur to you not to floss your teeth anymore.
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Stop listening to an audio recording telling yourself to floss your teeth. You can
change your programming in the same way McDonald's and Apple change their
advertising campaigns from time to time. You can change your advertising
campaign for yourself, too, and you can do it instantly. No cost, no money. You just
hit record and you make a new audio and you delete the old one. Or you can add
on to your old audio and make it longer. So the answer is you really, if you want to
have complete control over your habits, need to listen to yourself, speak audio
every day for the rest of your life. But remember, you don't pay me anything for it
or anyone else. As long as you have a cell phone. You'll be able to do it all by
yourself.
49. Build the Habit of Continual Improvement
One really important habit when I try to build on every single day is the habit of
continual improvement. And that's why in this video, I'm going to ask you to help
me improve. What would make this course better? Don't just leave a review and a
bunch of stars instead. Tell me exactly what you'd like to see changed. What do you
want me to get rid of? What you want me to add? How can I make this course
better? I do look at every single comment. I respond to every single comment. And
when possible, I try to make the changes so that this course can get better and
better and better. So please don't just skip through this and go to the next video.
Take just a moment, leave feedback for me either here in the student Q&A section
or the Facebook page. And let me know, how can this course be improved? Thanks.
50. Revise, edit, Delete, Recreate Your Selfie speak Audios
Yourself speak programming audio isn't perfect. It needs to change. It needs to be
updated now. Maybe it's perfect for you today. It's perfect and that it tells you
exactly who you want to be today. What you want to do incorporates all your goals,
your aspirations and your daily habit. That's great. But you know what? Things
change. You may be telling yourself to focus on your novel, write your novel every
day. You're going to become the world's greatest novelist. Six months from now,
you may decide you have a passion for nonfiction science writing and that would
hange everything. That's OK. You want to adjust, edit and revise yourself, speak out
occasionally. You want to hit, delete, do the whole thing over. Now, what I like to
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do is just to keep a list of things in my cell phone of what I want to add, what I want
to change. And every so often I'll just take it out and I'll just add to my existing self
speak audio. You just hit the button, you record at the end. Now, is this make it
perfect? Is it sometimes out of order with the topic you may have mentioned
earlier? Yeah, but so what? You're not making a record or an album or a CD
download that's going to be sold for twenty or thirty dollars. You're making
something just for you So I don't really worry about the order. Every so often you
listen to something and realize I'm not sure I believe that anymore. You may have
incorporated something in yourself. You speak audio that I gave you and it turns
out it's bad advice. Now, I think everything I've given you in this course is good
advice. But research change. Facts can change on a particular subject. I'm very
confident that at some point in the future, something I've said in this course, I won't
even consider good advice any longer. That's OK. Change it. It shouldn't be cast in
stone. Other traditional thought patterns might be cast in stone, originally carved
in tablets, how you control your life, how you program your life should not be cast
in stone. For many, many things you're trying to do, so realize you should be making
revisions, you should be making changes. Don't be afraid to get a new idea of a new
way you want to conduct life and make the change. I had finished a recent selfie
speak of audio and then realized, you know what, I really want to reemphasize the
fact that when I'm hungry in between meals, I want to drink water rather than look
for a snack. I just added it to the end. Didn't matter that it wasn't connected
immediately with my health goals earlier. The audio, that's OK. When I redo the
audio from scratch, which I do completely, then I can assemble it all in more of an
order. But the key is be flexible, always be questioning. We talked about that earlier
and of course, everyone else's belief system. But question your own belief system,
too, as you are putting it into yourself. You speak out, you always speak. You're
looking for ways of improving things to take out if it's no longer appropriate things
to add. If you want to try new things, this should be a living, breathing thing that
grows with you not necessarily longer, but grows and improves as you improve
your own life.
51. Put All Your Habits Together Now
We're almost at the end of this core course material. But it's not time to just sit
back, relax and celebrate. Oh, no. I need you to put everything together, really
synthesize into one self HSBC program, one SSP for you. You could listen to a whole
bunch of different ones, 20 different ones each day. I find it much easier to have it
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all down in one recording. And all I have to do in the morning is push play. And that
way, whether I'm eating breakfast, even reading other information, I can be
listening to it and it starts my day off the right way, reinforces every single
significant habit I'm trying to accomplish. So please take a moment. Now, one big
last recording and you may want to change your recording tomorrow. That's OK.
But this may be a recording that you're happy with for the next six months. Don't
worry about making it perfect. Just focus on making it conversational, telling you
how you would like to live your life on a daily basis. Please go ahead and do that
now.
52. We Are Near the End
We're almost at the end, if you come with me this far, we've covered a lot of
ground. I hope you have a much stronger sense of how to create goals that work
for you and then help you build the life you want to live. So if he didn't do any of
the homework assignments or if you didn't get your cell phone and record your
selfie speak program, please go back and do that now. This course is not going to
benefit you if you've not created your own selfie speak program, telling you what
goals you should have. Not my goals, but your goals. So please don't yet. Go back
and do that.
53. One Last Chance to Help Yourself and Others Reach
Goals More Effectively
OK, one last chance to help you reach your goals more effectively through some
interaction and for you to help me with my goal of making this course better. If you
still have questions about anything to do with the course or if you have suggestions
on how to make this course better, please go to the student Facebook page below
and leave your questions, your comments, your suggestions. If you think I left
something out of this gauze, let me know. I'll add it. I may add it in the next 24
hours. If you think there's something in here that doesn't need to be in here, let me
know. I might take it out. This course is a work in progress. One of my creation goals
is to always figure out how I can create better things, one of my learning goals is to
figure out how can I learn to make my courses better? I need to do that with you. I
need to practice what I preach. And I hope you do, too. So please, do you have any
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questions, comments, thoughts? Leave them in the Facebook page below or the
student Q&A section.
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