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There’s something missing from the Law of
Attraction
For the Law of Attraction to work, you have to think positively. However, it’s
difficult to stay positive all the time. When things go wrong in life, or they don’t
quite turn out how we expect, it’s hard to remain optimistic.
Most people saw me as a positive individual. But when things got hard, I was far
from it. Anger had always got the better of me. Sometimes, external events
would create so much rage within me that I’d want to wreck everything in sight.
As a result, I’d enter a downward spiral. I fluctuated constantly from highs to
extreme lows. I was like two different people. These inconsistencies were
projected onto my life. I’d go through some really good periods and then
experience really bad ones. During the bad times, it was impossible to see the
bright side of things. I tended to give in and take out my frustrations on the
world by smashing up furniture, speaking rudely to others and moaning about
how terrible it was to live in the world.
During my last year of university, I experienced a massive setback in a group
project that counted for a significant percentage of my final grade, when my
group became divided over how much of a contribution people were making. I
tried to be optimistic about it and expected it to work out in the end. But it didn’t
– it got really messy.
It suddenly seemed clear that the Law of Attraction didn’t always work. My
group was completely divided, arguing constantly over our individual roles and
how much effort each member was putting in, just months before graduation.

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Things got out of control and harsh words were exchanged; unfortunately, there
was no way to fix the issue. My friend Darryl and I felt that we were treated very
unfairly, but there wasn’t much we could do about it, other than work ten times
harder, with looming deadlines that seemed impossible to meet, especially on
top of the rest of our workload. We were convinced we’d fail our assignments
and exams, and therefore be unable to graduate. It felt like we’d wasted our
entire time at university.
I had gone to university because I felt like I had to. It was what you were
supposed to do if you wanted a good job and a comfortable life – which I hadn’t
experienced during my childhood. But deep down I didn’t really want to be
there. I didn’t enjoy it. I always knew I wouldn’t end up in a traditional job. I
was doing this for my mum more than anything. I’d watched her struggle my
whole life and wanted to show her it hadn’t been in vain.
Now that I was so close to the finish line, it was all going to be taken away from
me. All I could think about was letting my mum down, letting myself down and
all the money wasted on a degree that I was going to fail. It was all for nothing. I
was overcome by negative thoughts.
I told my mum I was going to leave university, as I had no reason to be there. I
hated it and it was unfair what I was going through. My rage needed a scapegoat,
so I blamed her for everything. Lovingly, she tried to convince me to stay and do
the best I could, but in anger I only argued with her even more.
I was fed up with the endless problems and I wanted to leave everything behind.
I had no reason to live and no purpose in life. My low state even led me to revisit
some of my worst memories, which just added more fuel to the fire, convincing
me that my life was worthless. What was the point in having dreams if I could
never manifest them? I convinced myself I was living a lie and kidding myself
that I could do big things.
It seemed clear right then: great things were never meant for me. So I trawled
through employment websites and applied for a variety of jobs that looked fairly
interesting and paid well, even though I wasn’t qualified for them. I thought that
if I could land one, I wouldn’t seem like a complete failure and would at least
have some money to help out my family with their debt, bills and expenses,
including my sisters’ weddings. In my covering letters, I explained that although
I was under qualified, I’d be the perfect employee. No one responded.

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Underneath it all, I knew I couldn’t quit university when I’d already come so far.
I’d expended so much energy trying to find a way out of the problem, but now it
was time to face what had to be done and hope for the best.
But first I had my eldest sister’s wedding to attend. This added more pressure. It
meant that I’d have to hand in an assignment earlier than everyone else and take
time off university just two months before my final deadlines, which would set
me back even more. Stubbornly, I told my family that I couldn’t go to the
wedding, even though I knew I’d forever regret missing such an important event.
In the end I did go – albeit reluctantly.
And soon as I got there, something unexpected happened. I felt calm and
relaxed. The wedding was in Goa, India, and it was beautiful. Everyone there
was shining bright with happiness and love for my sister and her new husband.
Honestly, at this point I wasn’t trying to feel positive. I was comfortable feeling
down and feeling sorry for myself, and I wanted others to feel sorry for me, too.
But this new environment created a welcome shift in me. For the first time in
ages, I felt grateful.
I’ll always remember my sister’s wedding. And it taught me a lot about how the
Universe operates.
On my return home, the positive feeling stayed with me. I felt good, and very
calm about the chaos outside me. And my renewed steadiness motivated me to
finish what needed to be done.
I created a dummy score card that displayed the overall mark I would receive for
my degree. I’d stare at this for a few minutes each day while pretending that the
impressive grade on the scorecard was real. I didn’t quite believe that I’d achieve
it; it was merely a desire. But I 
did
believe that I would do well, nonetheless.
I made up my mind to go to the library every single day, for hours on end. I put
in the huge amount of extra work needed to complete the group assignment, and
more. During my breaks I took time to chat with positive people who were able
to make me feel good about myself.
One of them was the woman I’d eventually fall in love with for life.
When it came to exam time, handing in assignments and doing final year
presentations, I was confident that I’d done enough. As it turned out, I didn’t

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quite get the marks that were on my dummy score card, but I did pass
comfortably. And I aced one of the hardest exams on my course, which came as
a surprise.
I went on to have similar successes by using the Law of Attraction. But, overall,
the results were hit and miss. I knew I was missing something. When I found out
what this was, I began to have more consistent success. I was able to test this on
others, to see if they’d also benefit from my discovery – and they did. In fact,
many of them were able to do things that had once seemed impossible.
Not everything I’ve wanted has manifested. This has usually been a blessing in
disguise. Too many times I’ve believed that I wanted and needed something, but
it was for all the wrong reasons. Over the years I’ve gained clarity and sighed
with relief for not getting what I thought was surely meant for me. Often, I’ve
not got what I wanted, only to find I’ve later been blessed with even more.

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